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writes:Hi, I just wondered if anyone could give me some advice.I know this question may not put me in a good light, but please hear me out. Basically, I'm really missing Sex at the moment. Now, I'm not the sort of person for whom Sex is all that matters, far from it. However, the fact that I'm not getting any is really getting me down. This is fuelled by the fact that my ex-girlfriend, who has only been an ex for about 4 weeks, has already started seeing someone and I'm pretty sure they're sleeping together. We were only together for 4 1/2 months, but we really made a connection in that time, and we only split up because I'm moving out of university in May after my final year (it is her first year). In any case, that is none of my business anymore so I just need to focus on myself.So I guess my question is this - How do I get my Sex life back?I've been going out regularly just recently. I've been listening to audio downloads that help increase your confidence and I think it's paying off. I went out last night and felt great and comfortable in myself and I even found myself getting a few looks. Then I went to a club and I only seemed to repel women there, why is that? Could it be that my dancing is that bad? While I'm producing this aura of confidence at the moment, I am not the most confident of guys. Shamefully, I have never really been one for making the first move.What advice can you give me? I know this question probably makes me sound a little pig-ish, but believe when I say that Sex is NOT all that matters to me. I just think if I got some it would give me a much needed boost. Having somebody love leave you and move on so quickly really gets you down. Please help.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Stick with what was working. The club wasn't working, but where you were at first was.
There's no secret to dealing with women. You just talk to them, make good eye contact, smile and ask open ended questions. Listen to what they say and keep the conversation going.
If you really want sex, that will show. You'll smell desperate to them and it will be a turn off.
Oh yeah, remember, dancing is an aligory for sex, so women look at how you dance as a representation of how you are in bed. If you think you're moves need work, you might want to take some classes. ;-)
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