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writes: I just want an advice on whether I should continue this LDR or break it off... I'm 19 from Aus and my boyfriend (22) lives in Costa Rica. We've been in this LDR for about almost 3 years, we met online, I don't care what you think about it but I love him with all my heart; I love him like his been here with me all this time. But because i love him so much this distance and time difference is slowly killing me inside. It hurts to be with him, I get upset so easily because we're barely spending time together as we used to. He's planning to visit me but he's the kind of guy that doesn't really follow the plan...well something always happened. Our new plan is that he'll see me once every year and a half because thats when he can get vacations off work...but I don't know how sure he is about this, like what if it doesn't happen? Wouldn't my heart be crumbled to how much time this is going to take? I don't know if I can wait for him every 1 year and a half for God knows when. I don't know whats going to happen to "us" in the future. So is this worth the pain and wait?? What should I do?
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Oh my dear, you're still in a relationship which means just bf & gf, and you're intending to see him once in one year and a half? That's insane.
To be honest, me and me fiance haven't seen each other for 3 months after our holiday trip together. Now i'm waiting for 4 more months to see him next and yes we're getting married next time we meet. Honey, it's killing me everyday and me rushes myself to find something to do to cut the thinking of him. If me fella asked me to wait for over 1 more year to be together, i'm sorry i couldn't. Love means alot but lacking of physical contact would kill you badly.
Think hard before getting yourself into a stupid trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Sorry hun, you are in love with the idea of being in love...Don't let this LDR rob you of finding a proper relationship you can nurture and spend time with the individual...Your boyfriend and yourself have no solid plans for marriage so what is the point???....I be straight with you it will not be worth waiting a year and half wallowing in misery only to have your heart broken....Take time and consider the reality of the situation.....It will be painful to let go but in time you will feel better and heal....A word is enough for the wise, dont say we didnt warn you
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Honey I tried an LDR and we thought it would work but like the previous poster, he cheated and now we are on bad terms. I don't know that it will work out but you two need to discuss this. Communication is essential. Stay safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): i met a guy online. and he was great to chat to etc but when we met in person it all felt totally different. he wasnt the same as the person id spoken to online. He ended up cheating on me and was generally an arse. I hope this wont be the case with you. but assuming he does make the effort to come and see you... please please please dont meet him alone. just in case. you can never be too careful withpeople met online. meet him with company and dont let him come to where you live until youre sure he is who he says he is. and asuming he is that person... 1.5 years is a long time :( good luck, i hope it works for you
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