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writes:hi everybody,i had a two years relationship that end up with a cute little boy.since i got pregnant,my boyfriend had run away with another girl,he had never visited me,he does not even know my son's name.he called me weeks after my baby was born,i was so upset and skipped him,and he had never called again;now i m afraid that he will plan to step up later because he had always told me that the baby will know him as a father.i hate him,and i plan to do whatever to stop him from my baby.he does not have any child support,i do not receive anything from him,and my baby does not carry his last name.do you think he can step up later.thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 December 2010):
You can't deny a DNA test. He can take it to court and get one. Plus, let's face it, if he contacted your child directly and said you'd blocked a test, your child will turn against you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question remember that my baby does not name after him,what if i denying him being the father and refuse all DNA test.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 December 2010):
Yes, he can step it up, which is why it's so important that you chase after this child support. Now, I don't know exactly how the rules apply in America for children who don't have married parents, but here in Britain they basically have the same rights. I would strongly suggest that you speak to a lawyer and know where you stand with your rights. Get chasing this child support. Because, if you don't, he'll be able to walk back into your life later on and it'll be a mess.
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 I know your hurting and feel abandoned.
However nothing can change the fact he is the Biological father. He will always have some rights even if you think its unfair.
I think if the father does step up in the future it would be good for the child. Every child has a right to have both parents or at least know whom they are.
Many woman and men use thier children as tools to hurt the other as a form of revenge when a reationship falls down or runs its course.
Dont fall into this pattern.
Remember this is about the child not your relationship with him or how he hurt you.
Children grow up and this person will always be a part of your life no matter how far you move away - even if you marry another or how much you try to block it out he is the childs father.
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