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anonymous
writes:OK, i have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 years now. We are high school Lovers. Are relationship has been really good. Until about a year ago. She cheated on me 2 times. And im the guy whos been faithful about this relationship in the past 6 years. Recently on a car forum i posted a picture of her "ass" but she is wearing a thong/ underwar. She found out recently and started telling me how much she hates me, wished death upon me, and my family and all that stuff. She knows that i truly love her, and now i dont know if she truly loves me. What do you guys think i should do? not call her? give her a break? leave her alone for a couple weeks? Any help is e. Appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): LMAO.....Now that was so funny. I think you should show more of her naked pics.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (30 July 2008):
 I just have to say that I really like the last answer by the anonymous male. I'm totally doing all those things right now. My Ex girlfriend called me the day before yesterday saying "I know we're not talking but you can still call me sometimes" she says this after I told her last month I couldn't talk to her anymore. I told her I would call her but I changed my mind today and don't plan on it.
After I stopped talking to her completely I threw myself into working out and working. This helped to take my mind off of her a bit. Besides, the better I look the hotter the next I score will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Listen bro. F*** her. You should have dropped her the first time she cheated on you. You're a man. Do not allow this women to betray you like that. You want a women who will be faithful to you.
I know it's gonna be hard, but eventually you should get over it and hopefully by then you will have already found a new chick. Just keep your head up and keep your mind off of her. Do whatever it takes to keep your head clear. Go to the gym, work, school, then go out with your boys, have a good time, sleep and do it over.
You're gonna have to wax the weazel until you find a new chick but it'll be very soon as long as you keep your confidence up and your mind focused.
So to sum it up, my advice is: drop her. get buffer. new chick. happier life. more self-confidence.
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reader, shelleyanne +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Well, you definitely shouldn't have done that, but she hasn't responded as an adult either. Saying that she hates you and wishes you were dead does not say "loving relationship" to me. She's probably feeling quite guilty for cheating on you. Because of this she may be trying to put some of the blame on you, hence her overreaction about the pictures.
Still, I feel like you are harboring some unresolved resentment toward her, because you have been the faithful one. If you can't move on, you need to put your relationship on pause and evaluate if being together is worth the stress. You need to ask yourself, will you be miserable because of her mistakes for the rest of your life together?
If you can't answer that question yourselves maybe you could try a relationship councelor.
Good luck to you both.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 BTW - Did you think that this was acceptable because she cheated on you? Two wrongs still don't make a right. Not cool, and she won't think so either. Either break up with someone who has done you wrong, but don't keep them and then publicly punish them. I strongly suspect that you already know why she is pissed and that you know that you haven't been an angel in this situation either...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Ok, thank you for your input. I know on my part that was very not cool. And i tried telling her that i would do anything to get her forgivness!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (11 July 2008):
A-hem! It wasn't your ass and you didn't have the right to post a pic of it, Hunnie! That's not cool! People's private parts belong to themselves, even if you have pictures of them, even if you are in a relationship with them! Very, very not cool. Bad!
If you want to fix things, realize how very, very not cool that was and beg her forgiveness! Seriously! If you love her, don't do any of the other things, 'cause a break would only compound the disgression and dig you in deeper. Apologize once, twice, three times, four times, as many times as it takes for her to forgive you. People may or may not know who's ass it was you posted, but that was a no-no. Best of Luck!
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