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writes:This is basically an update from my previous questions but I just need help.So my ex and I broke up and were going through a very rough time and during that time..she was....uhm...kinda weird to say..but yeah she was raped..by her current boyfriend and the only reason they are together is because they fear she might be pregnant and me and her talk a whole lot nowadays and she barely tells me this today and it basically broke my heart because we were each others firsts and yeah..I really don't want her...doing things like that with other guys but she said that she didn't like it and that it hurt and that she doesn't think she's pregnant but I told her either wayd I still love her, cause we might get back together, and if she was that I'd take the baby as if it was my own. And I will! But I'm just here asking like..what should I do to the bf? Like I should just talk to him about what he did was wrong? Or do something serious as to just tell her parents and maybe even the cops before I go and do something worse and stupid.
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reader, Chestnut +, writes (4 August 2008):
Chestnut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYup! Lol
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 August 2008):
That is great news!
Now you can get her to leave the bastard and live happily ever after.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Chestnut +, writes (4 August 2008):
Chestnut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell guys....
She's not Pregnant! So yeah.
Well thanks for everyones help
I really appreciate it :]
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reader, Chestnut +, writes (3 August 2008):
Chestnut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I know dude. Jst..I wanna "smash his face in" so badly..it does eat me aswell but were doing good. And yeah I told her from now on if we have sex that it'd only be if SHE wants to because I don't want her thinkin tht I just want her for that again or whatever. And yeah
Well thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): this happened to my exgirl as well we were still in love..and the thought she was pregnant cus the dummy ejaculated inside her but she wasnt.. she'll prolly hate the guy.. i wouldn't advise u to approach him cus he may get hostile with her cus she prolly wasnt supposed to tell anyone..he'll hopefully jus stray away like my exgirls guy did... and what ever u do dont make a consious effort about how yall have sex and how its initiated cus me and my exgirl arent speaking no for like 3months it eats me out... cus we had this dominiation thing... and when i did it... it was only when we or rather i got something going she was on top that i realized that she didnt want it and i stopped and she said i raped her so be careful cus she going to be alot more sensitive about what goes on... this is killing me
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reader, Chestnut +, writes (3 August 2008):
Chestnut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I know thanks.
I'm going to talk to her about going to the police. But I think she'd say no cuz shed be afraid if her parents found out but I'm telling her she should just tell them
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 August 2008):
You need to get your friend to go to the police.
You can be a witness about how she came to you the next day.
I know that you want to go round and smash his face in and yes he probably deserves that, but if you go to the police then they will arrest him, tell his parents, and she will be offered all kinds of help and counselling.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Chestnut +, writes (3 August 2008):
Chestnut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I know I should but...I just..I don't know part of me just wants to beat him but then I don't. And she's just with him because the guy thinks she might be pregnant and idk lol but yeah like I said, I'm trying to do everything I can for her. And like I said too, we both want to get back together but when she told me she started crying because she thought that it'd change my feelings for her but it hasn't.
Uhm I'm not sure she has seen a doctor because were basically trying to figure out if she is pregnant.
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reader, lilly123 +, writes (3 August 2008):
 you should go to the police you cannot let him get away with it.what the hell is she doing with him after that so what if she's pregnant he does not deserve to be a father.All you can do is be there for her like you are now but dont let him get away with it he could be doing it to other people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): Your Friend needs to tell the police.All you can do is be there for her.Has she seen a doctor? Her doctor should be able to get her some professional help.
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