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writes:Hello Agony AuntsRecently my Ex girlfriend and I ran into some troubles in our relationship. We've been on and off because of some poor choices I've made so she ended up having some trust issues with me. I tried really hard to show her That I want something serious and I want to commit but she said she couldn't allow herself to open up to me yet. After a fight she said that she thinks we should just stay friends and then posted a dumb facebook status about moving on and being a stronger person. She told my best friend that she still loves me but because of her trust issues she doesn't want me to wait around for her. So I decided that very instant she said she just wanted to stay friends that I was going to not contact her and give her her time and space. About a week and a half pasts and she texts me out of nowhere to see how I was doing and just kept a conversation going. I cut it short because I want her to get over her negativity she feels for me and miss me. a couple of days later (yesterday) She texted me again after I had posted a video of me playing guitar and she said she had just listened to the same song before she saw the video, then proceeded to try and have a conversation but I kept it short again. Not even a couple hours later she started snap-chatting me. This entire time since I've been giving her space she has liked every single Facebook status and I kind of feel like she doesn't want to let go even though that's what she said...I really love her with all of my heart and I am ready to turn things around. I just don't know what to do and need some direction or advice on whats going on in her mind or if there's even a chance of us again. I feel deep down that of course she loves and misses me and that there will be another chance but the worst part is I just don't know what she is thinking :/
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reader, Over 50 advice +, writes (18 May 2015):
 She is just stringing you along and not ready to close this chapter, even if she came back to you, your always going to wonder if this is going to happen again. She already can see she can control you with a couple of messages and Stop replying to her, she already knows how you feel about her. It's up to her to decide if she want's to come back, don't explain anything to her you have already made your case.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 May 2015):
 Stop playing games with her. Be honest and tell her I still want to date you, but if you can't see us together, let's not play this "friends" thing as it will holds us BOTH back.
If she CAN see a future with you in it, ASK her what she NEEDS from you in order to rebuild truth and trust. Then you have you decide if you can DO that or not.
Right now it's neither here nor there and not helping either of you.
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