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writes:Hiya, I've been in some bad relationships. I am only young (17) but I've been used, cheated on etc. Now I'm with someone who is different (I think!) and I've been with him for a while.Thing is my past relationships have really ruined it for me. I'm so jealous of any girl he talks to, I'm also paranoid and I always think he might like other girls than me and he's just with me for the sake of it.He treats me well, shows me he loves me, but I just can't believe it.I feel like I'm waiting to be cheated on.I've also got low self esteem. I used to think I was quite pretty, and I've always had loads of attention, I've always been with guys and girls have always told me I'm pretty, and I used to be quite confident. But now when I look in the mirror I think I'm so ugly, and loads of things about myself I hate.So, I'm just wondering, if anyone has been in rubbish past relationships, and knows how to not make it all travel into future or present relationships,I feel like the way I am, is making me going to lose him:(Any help would be much appreciated! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAmpersand, you are so right! haha,My first relationship was when I was about 13, and I was with him for about a year, and he cheated on me, straight after I got with a new guy and I felt fine because I had someone there.And since then I've never been single. I don't necessarily try and find a guy straight away, I just end up liking someone!But because of this, I've built up all this bad energy and emotions, and it's made me so different from my previous self. I'm jealous, paranoid and flippant.So you're right, even though it would be hard for me, I need to be single to find out more about myself and love myself, so then I can actually hold a relationship haha!Thanks for your advice. Opened my eyes a bit x
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reader, hopexx  +, writes (9 June 2011):
I am in the exact same position! It seems so hard to not let what happened, affect something that you want to actually turn out right. What I've been doing is trying to realize that every guy isn't necesarily the same, so maybe you should give the one you're with a chance. To avoid getting your heart broken, or any other damage from your past relationships that caused you to feel this way, just don't completely open yourself up to him, and don't let the guy get control of your emotions and feelings. If that happens, you could be only setting yourself up to get hurt again. good luck and keep your head up! Don't let anyone bring you down when theyre the ones who did wrong (:
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