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writes:Hi, I need some help. Ive just got back with my ex after 15 months apart. He ended it with me. He went out one night with friends and didnt come home. He rang me the next day to say that it was over and swore that there was no-one else. He has just admitted to me that he met someone that night and started a relationship with her. Before we split, things were going wrong and I new it was over.I finding it really hard to deal with that he cheated! I now he loves me but im scared he will do it again. Please tell me how I deal with it
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reader, maria14r  +, writes (12 April 2007):
the same thing happen to me. when i got back with him he told me that she didnt mean anything to him. and i believed him. that i know my man has been faithful since. you should give him a chance and if you dont see this going anywhere then break it off.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Someone once said: fool me once, shame on you: fool me twice, shame on me. If you go back to him, you do this at your own peril, as you know what he is capable of. If you do take him back, he may be a wonderful partner and have changed his ways but I think even you know that isn't true. I'm not saying people don't deserve second chances, I just think if you were so sure about him, you wouldn't be writing this about him on here.
I think you have your doubts and are looking for reassurance that he won't do it again. You want the rest of the world to agree that you're doing to right thing so, when he does cheat again, you won't be the only one to blame. This is perfectly natural, you obviously care for this man, but is it worth the risk of being hurt this badly again in the future? There are many nice men out there who will treat you better.
This could work out but you have to leave your issues with what happened here. If you can do that, of course, things can work out. If you look deep within yourself and you honeslty cannot see yourself ever moving on from this, there's your answer: life's too short to be worrying about what's round the corner with your partner. It's supposed to be a happy time when you just get with someone, not a worrying time because of what they've done to you before.
I hope this has helped, I really hope you make the right decision. Only you know this guy and only you know whether he really has chagnged, whatever you're trying to tell yourself is the truth. Just be sure he's going to be faithful and be sure you can leave these issues here. But it has been my experience that problems like these do not go away.
Good luck
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reader, penta +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Do not get back together with this man. He has lied to you in the past so it is very likely that he will do it again. You're worth much more than being his sloppy seconds when his cheating relationship didn't work out. Kick him to the curb; you'll be happier in the long run.
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