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writes:so me and my bf split up about 3 weeks ago and ever since has been texting my so called best friend to meet up for sex i don't know if they have for definate but his best friend insists they have. Anyhow i have just found out i am 14 weeks pregnant and i don't want to tell him because we never ended on good terms, hes been meeting up with my friend maybe, i think he might think i am only saying it so we get back together; and im not as far as i am concerned the best thing that happened to me was when i got out of the awful relationship.I don't know whether to tell him about the baby because I do not want to see him again. what should i do?Oh and before anyone says why wasnt there any contraception, there was on the implant.
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reader, jezi +, writes (3 May 2009):
hey,
its been a while since you posted so i guess you have done what you believe was right. but i wanted to say that i agree with eviea, she is not your best friend. even though you werent together it wouldnt have been cheating....however the pain probably still feels the same. i hope he cared enough to support you through the pregnancy, however if he didnt then thats his loss!! i hope everything worked out ok for you and you a feeling positive for your little bundle of joy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso i met up with him and told him i am pregnant and he told me that he wants nothing else to do with me that i should get rid of it because i am not going to get any support off anyone and that it probably isn't his baby anyway. so really it was a waste of time. I did offer to have a DNA test done when the baby is born but he said no.
I tried telling him that i don't want anything from no money i can provide for the child myself i just want him to be their for his child but he wasnt prepared to listen so screw him.
So that just makes me think that he aint ready to face up to his responsibilities
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Your best friend doesn't sound much of a friend if she is having sex with him, especially so soon after you broke up. And you sound well rid of him if he has so little concern for your feelings.
Well you have decided you don't want him any more so that sounds very wise to me. Won't he notice though, that you have got pregnant, and work it out for himself that he is the father?
I hope you are getting some support from family or true friends who can help you with the pregnancy and after the birth. This seems the most important thing.
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reader, anon642 +, writes (5 November 2008):
 Hello honey :)
Really it is a case of are you keeping the baby because if you are, sooner or later he is going to see you 'changing'.
If it is true that your ex and your 'best friend' are meeting up for sex, then they are not very respectable people. At the end of the day, what kind of best friend does that.
A best friend should be someone you turn to in times like these, not causing them!
You should find out for definate if they are meeting up and also whether you are keeping this baby!
Let us know how it goes and everyone here will be happy to help you further :)
All the best!
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reader, EvieA  +, writes (5 November 2008):
 She is not your "Best friend" she isnt even your "friend" if she is agreing to have sex with him.
But the boy is not cheating on you, as you have broken up so in that case you cant do anything about that.
Talk to him. tell him your pregnant, and see if he even cares.
if not then stuff him!
And your "friend!"
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