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writes:im 16, nearly 17 and have had sex with my boyfriend (nearly 18) 4 times and have been going out with him for just over 1 year and a half. we used a condom everytime and im not on the pill, although my mum keeps saying that she'll come with me to put me on but we never have time. i definately want her to come with me, and we'll eventually get round to it, but me and my boyfriend haven't had sex in almost 6 months, and we're both ready again. if we do it again, with a condom, before i'm on the pill, is this taking a big risk? is it better to wait, god knows how long, untill im on the pill? would we be being stupid? because ill have to wait 1 month and a half when im actually on the pill to ensure its working properly. what are the chances of me becoming pregnant? and also how easy is it to get hold of the morning after pill if something goes wrong? i live in england.please answer me soon because i do get worried and would like some advice.thanks. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): A condom is safer than the pill because it protects you from HIV as well as pregnancy. Not that I am suggesting your boyfriend has HIV, it's just advice you can keep.
As long as he is using the condom right and it doesn't break, you should be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Hey!
The first thing I want to tell you is not to get too worried. The condom is a very effective method of contraception and also provides protection against STIs. However, how effective any contraception is depends on how properly it is used. With typical condom usage (including breakages and it slipping off), its efficacy actually drops to around 80-90%. However, as you seem to be cautious and not having sex very often I very much doubt you could be pregnant.
But... if you want to start having sex more regularly, I would recommend the pill as long-term birth control. I was in the exact same situation as you when I first started having sex, we were just using condoms and I worried so much for really no reason at all as we were careful too. Another thing to bear in mind: if you are worrying about being pregnant while you have always had protected sex, then it is bound to delay your period so don't assume the worst! Worrying delayed mine by a fortnight once! Stressville!
It's great that you and your Mum are both involved in this and that you want to be safe. I am from the UK, so like myself, the doctor will prescribe you with a 3 month supply of the combined pill (usually Microgynon 30) to see how you get on. You may get headaches, feel nauseous and get light bleeding (like at the end of your period), but these symptons usually pass after the first two months, if not, your doc will be happy to find an alternative pill brand for you. Follow the instructions in the pill leaflet exactly and you are very very unlikely to get pregnant.
BUT...obv make sure you're both STI free before ditching the condoms and relying on the pill. In any event, you can be both involved in contraception with using condoms AND the pill which drives down risk of pregnancy even lower. The pill has also improved my skin and made my bleeds much more bearable, but everyone will get different reactions.
You used to be able to get a supply of morning after pills when getting the pill from the doctor, but unfortunately not the case any more.
So in the UK, or in England you can get the morning after pill from the following places:
Your doctor/General Practice (you will have to make an appointment and tell the receptionist that it is an emergency)
Any pharmacy (though it costs about £26)
Family planning/NHS drop-in centres in your area. Google Brook Advisory Centres/Local NHS centres/GUM clinics
I'm guessing you know the 72 hr rule for M.A. Pill, though swallowing it within 24hrs of sex is most effective. 5 days after you can still go to the doctor to get an IUD fitted.
Long, but hope it helped!
Best wishes xxx
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reader, michele21  +, writes (5 November 2008):
 well a condom is 99% effective just like the pill is you don't have to have both in order to have sex i say use a condom and have sex you will be fine than get on the pill a.s.a.p....i would also just have him pull out when he is going to cum still even though he hes a condom on i don't know how it is in england but in the united states you can just go to a drug store and get the morning after pill right away no problems but things could be different there....you taking all the precautions you need to stop worriying so much its not good stress on the body.
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