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writes:I'm 38 and gay, and have been with my partner (who is 21) for nearly 3 years. We recently had broken up for about a month or so, and in that month I met someone else who I consider a friend. We did hook up once during that month but now my partner and I have decided to get back together and try to work things out. I talked to the other person about it and he totally understands and is fine with just being a friend. My partner knows about this other person and what we talked about, and has told me that he does not want me to have anything to do with him because he thinks that I will hook up with this other person behind his back even though I told him he's fine with just being a friend. I have never given him any reason to ever think I would cheat and have always kept my word on absolutely everything in our relationship. I'm very hurt to think that he doesn't trust me and assumes that I will cheat on him especially after 3 years of being together. Now I'm not sure if getting back together was a good idea. Am I wrong to think that he would automatically not trust me or is he being irrational by assuming the worst? And do I just need to move on? I know he would be devastated if we did break up for good did but I just don't think I feel the same way about us anymore.
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reader, theothergirl +, writes (10 July 2007):
I think you should sit down with your partner and talk to him. Have a long talk with him. Tell him what you really want and if he does love you, he'l trust you and he'l let you do what you want. Trust is what comes first in every relatioship. He should be able to do so especially when you say you've never given him any reason not to. Anyway, make sure he understands you so you guys can work it out. Because that little bit of issue could become a big one if not worked on.
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reader, Rosary +, writes (10 July 2007):
 I think that you are right when you say that you are hurt. Time truly does heal all wounds. Give your partner and yourself some time. When you are hurt you are angry and disappointed. Please try to remember what things kept you together and if after a reasonable amount of time you have not regained that old feeling then move on.
Be happy. Rosary
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