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writes:I have a little background to bring understanding to my situation. Five years a go I met this guy, I will call "Tony" we messed around for a summer and then I went off to school. We never spoke after that until a month ago when we saw each other at a local bar. We started messing around again, nothing serious. The second time we were at his house messing around he asked me if I was sleeping with anyone else at this bar, we both go there a lot. I told him no, he asked again that night naming specific names and again I said no. It seemed that everytime I was with him he was asking about other guys and this was irritating me so finally I asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else and he said no that I was the only one. This all leads to a point I promise. Another guy at the bar likes me, I will call him Brad. We are friends but nothing more, even though this guy keeps talking to other people about how to get my attention. He thinks we went on a date for his birthday but I did everything to show we were just hanging out. I paid for myself, things like that. Anyway Tony keeps pointing out Brad and how he thinks we went on a date and that he likes me. I keep telling him that there is nothing there, I have no physical attraction or anything to Brad.Here it is... the last two times I have seen Tony and I have been hanging out with Brad at the bar, Tony will say hi to Brad and look at me, but not say hi. Then later in the night he gets in a fight. He acutally almost started one with Brad the other night. Is he being jealous, or is there a possibility that he likes me for more than a sex buddy? Or is this just a high maintence sex buddy?I would normaly say its just sex since he only calls me like once a week to get together and he shows signs that yeah this isn't serious, I just can't figure this all out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): Well, here is an update... Tony has been kicked out of the bar we always met up at due to the last fight he had. He still only calls about once a week. He called me everyday this past weekend and was suppose to call me back later so we could get together but never did.
I am a bit tired of what seems to me to be a high maitence sex buddy. I know he has to be sleeping with other girls, it is impossible for a guy to do that only once a week. I just wish he had been truthful about it and many other issues that I have never had with a sex buddy.
When it comes down to it, why should he expect me to only be with him, yet I can only get it once a week. I would much rather find someone that I can be with more. I just don't think that this relationship is going to work. Thank you for your input, I really appreciated hearing your thoughts on the matter.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hi Hun,
Yes I think he does like you more thn he is letting on thats why he wants to fight Brad....
He probably thinks you want him as a sex buddy and is scared incase you turn him down, tell him how you really feel bout him its the only sure way to find out and to be honest if he tells you its just for sex, well its time to move on a find a guy who loves you, you deserve that babes Wishing you loads of luck babes,
Love Donna
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