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*emi12
writes:My ex split up with me 3months ago and I've found it really hard to get over it! I have tried to get in touch with him a few times and he hasn't got back in touch with me. A few days ago and he finally spoke to me. I asked if we could meet up as mates. I ended up going to see him at his house and stayed the night. It honestly felt like we had never been apart. I accidentley told him i loved him and he said it back and also said he had missed me. It was like we had never been apart. It has brought all my feelings back and has also made me fall inlove with him again. The next day we were texting and then I never heard anything of him so I text him and he said he doesn't want to get back together. What do I do now? I have fell in love with him again and he is not intrested. I don't understand why he would act like that with me when I went to see him if he didn't want to get back with me!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (12 July 2013):
Hi there. It is natural that two people will miss each other after a breakup.
That is no reason to go and be with them again, as it stops either of you from really moving on.
You will go on missing each other for a few months more even, and until you either meet someone else who you really like.
Or else, until you have come to terms with the ending, and have accepted that it just wasn't meant to be.
And after a breakup, it can take many months to reach this point.
And unfortunately, by getting together as you did recently, this is putting you both back to square one, once more.
And so it is counterproductive for this reason.
And when he said that he didn't want to get back together, it was as if you had broken up the first time - all over again.
I guess now, that you can probably see that for yourself.
The wisest thing you could possibly do now, would be to cut all contact with him, as it really serves no purpose whatsoever.
All it does, is hold you back from finding real happiness - with someone else.
It seems that that door has now closed, and most likely it has closed and never to be re-opened.
And so now it is time to grieve the ending of that relationship, and to move on with your life and look towards the future and what it holds.
To be upset over this last course of events, isn't going to help you at all.
And so don't call him or text him at all - not even to say "Hi" - as it won't change anything, and then you will probably regret that you did it at all.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (12 July 2013):
 You don't understand why he acted like that? Really, please say that you're not serious. He wanted to get in your pants. You were a one night stand, and he had you wrapped around his finger. He told you what you wanted to hear, and you bought it, hook, line, and sinker.
Forget him and move on with your life.
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