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anonymous
writes:my ex boyfriend was horrible and a complete psycho who.locked me in rooms and constantly accused me of cheating. He was mean and a little bit horrible about my children. I split up with him and I dont understand why I look at his facebook account, I dont want him at all. Ive noticed that he's been seeing a woman for less than a month and shes said she cant wait to meet her future in laws today. Hes treating her well and Im finding myaelf jealous and confused that she's already saying future in laws. Why do I feel remotely jealous or even see the need to look at his facebook account? am I a freak!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): Block him, move on.
He was bad news, and it's too early for this new lady to know it.
Sure he may be APPEARING to show her "trust" but if he was such a loser with you, he will eventually show that side again. He doesn't go from a psycho locking you in rooms, to suddenly being mr nice guy.
Be grateful you got away, not jealous about anything he is doing now, with anybody else. Feel sorry for them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): maybe she does have his trust thats a good point. Although I didn't cheat or do anything to make him diatrust me his past girlfrienda and wife cheated on him so it made him a little crazy. I think her saying that makes him feel special, he's a clingy guy so I think he's loving a clingy woman. I wanna block him but Im still finding the urge to have q look to see if it goes wrong. Oh dear I am a freak. I'll give blocking a go see how long it lasts. thanks peoplex
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reader, kellyO +, writes (12 July 2013):
 Hi Anom,
I concur with Aunt llifton, i would block him from facebook and try to move on from him. He didnt make you happy that is what is important. He might or might not end up making this lady happy but that shouldn't matter to you. To be honest i don't think he has changed at all.
Goodluck
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reader, llifton  +, writes (12 July 2013):
 simple solution: block him from your facebook account. that way, you can't look. that's what i always do after break ups because i'm like you, and drive myself insane by constantly looking and seeing what they're up to.
i doubt she's seen his crazy, awful side yet. it usually takes people like him (possessive/controlling etc) more than just a month or two to show their true colors. just wait. it's still too early on. besides, future in-laws? really? after a month. my lord what a clingy woman. i wouldn't worry at all.
just delete him so you don't torture yourself and remember how lucky you are to NOT be in this woman's shoes. best of luck.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (12 July 2013):
You are not a freak....abused woman don't realize they are abused to much much later in life. Everyone does want you are doing in a break up.
He doesn't love this woman. He will do the same things to her as he did to you. Give it time. You will be so grateful this a-hole is gone. I feel sorry for the new gal. She won't know what has hit her!
I think you are smart and intelligent. Please do not remember reading DVI's advice. He doesn't know what he is talking about.
Move forward. Don't look back. You are a strong beautiful women!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (12 July 2013):
 Because she has what you didn't -- his trust. Not saying that you did anything wrong, but regardless, that's your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): "Why do I feel remotely jealous or even see the need to look at his facebook account? am I a freak!"You're not a freak, just another wronged woman allowing her misguided ego and vanity to get the better of her good judgment and common sense. You don't want him, but you can't stand the thought of him choosing another woman over you. You're probably also a little jealous that he's found someone else while you're still alone. What you need to realize is that he's repeating the same pattern with her as he used with you, charming her and flattering her and promising her the world in order to get her to drop her defenses so he can lure her in and begin to exert control over her so soon enough she will be the one being accused of cheating and locked in closets.Be thankful he's out of you and your children's lives. Instead of obsessing about his love life, you should be worrying about the toxic effect his presence had on your children and devoting all your efforts to helping to heal their psychological trauma they have inevitably experienced. I respectfully suggest you could all benefit from counseling.
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