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writes:here goes, i was with a guy for nearly 3 years, we had our ups and downs i ended up cheating on him when i went on holiday to essex last october(i live in cornwall), then eventually we broke up in april this year.i confided in the guy i cheated on my ex with and ever since we have been going from strength to strength and now we are going out and have been ever since the beginning of may.a few problems ive got is that me and my ex have decided to remain friends and it seems as though he doesnt want me to have contact with my current bf, and he said if we end up going out with each other then we cant be friends as he would feel it isnt fair on him(but personally i feel that now we are both single we can do what we like). another one of my problems is that although when i cheated with my current bf i had way too much to drink and i basically offered myself on a plate and i was a mess etc. etc. i really want to make an effort because i am going to stay at his on wednesday for a week and a half and we are doing loads of cool stuff and i absolutely adore him.help me please! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Although my views are 100% against cheating, even under the influence of alcohol, i am very willing to give you my advice as much as i can help. Sorry to open with that but it's just that my ex cheated on me over 12 times so i obviously have bad memories. I can honestly say that friends and boyfriends will always have conflicts, especially ex's. I've come so close to physically hurting my girlfriends ex countless times but managed to refrain as much as possible. It does seem as though you are being made to choose and i have experienced this too. I made the right decision and blew off my ex for my current girlfriend. If you ask me that's the right thing to do, if you can make everything perfect and you are feeling happy with you boyfriend then i am afraid it will be your friend who has to go. I really hope i helped
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 June 2010):
You're being made to choose. Do you want your ex boyfriend to be a friend, or this new guy. You clearly can't have both. And rightfully so since one has been hurt. So I'm afraid you either cut contact with this friend, or you end it with this new boyfriend. But there is no both.
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