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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I have a huge crush on somebody. I'm 21, he is 25, he lives 2 miles from my house and he has never had a girlfriend, he's still very inexperienced in relationships and even he is not gay or bad looking at all. His friend said that because he's looking for really good girl, who wouldn't cheated on him or lie to him and so do i. I really need somebody like him. We have the same music taste (alternative), we are both very honest and we like the same kind of people. We both get pissed off by people, who are cheating and at the same time promising love to each other.So the thing is that i don't have much chances to talk with him or even see him more often. Somehow we are always on different places, bars, parties during weekends.It never happened that i would see him in a store or gas station for example. Or he just stays at home. Even he lives close to me and even we have a lot friends in common (but only 2, 3 of these friends are my close friends). 2 years ago we kissed after party, but we were very drunk and the situation and place was right. After that, we were just looking at each others eyes and one month ago we have talked. His best friend who was around was constantly talking about how great guy he is and and how lucky would be the girl who will get him. She also said how good person am i and he said: i didn't say she isn't. He was sitting very close to me and he seemed nervous about the way he looks as he knows i'm attracted to him.I'm writing this because i really need you to help me to read into these signals on facebook. I'm not sure if there are only consequences or he really want to tell me something and he is checking out my profile. I going to tell you only 3 of these "consequences" i can remember this moment. One evening i published on my wall one song from the band F. Next morning he published another song from the same band with subscription above: just for you.. enjoy! The second was that i became a fan of a band named P. The next day he published song of this band. The last one shocked me yesterday. I published one song of a band, which is not so well known. And today, he published another song, from the same band. This was the first time he published that band. And last month he liked 2 of my songs on my wall. This consequences are happening on and on for a year.I really think he is my soul mate, my perfect match and i'm pretty sure we're looking for the same kind of love- honest, friendly, passionate. So my questions are: Am i reading too much into these signals (on facebook and in real life)? And if i'm not, what is he trying to tell me? How to "get him" and start relationship with him? How to become friends with him?( I'm not going to write him on facebook or anywhere else in any case. ) And afterall, are these only consequences or are this some kind of signs of affection (or something else) ?Any of your advices or thoughts would be very helpful to me. I really don't know what to think anymore. Do you have any idea what's going on? Thank you.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 First, the facebook stuff. Don't read into that. What it means is that he's watching your posts and trying to show a shared interest. Nothing more. It could be because he likes you, or it could be because you have similar interests. FB is not reality and shouldn't be interpreted or read into.
By the way, I think you meant "Coincidences" not "Consequences" right? Anyway, I think you did.
On to the meat of the matter at hand. How do you hook up with this boy when you both like eachother but both are too chicken to make the first move? :-) It happens a lot. In a situation like that, you can employ your mutual friend to set you up. That may be something that person would be willing to do for you. If you aren't willing to do that, then you may have to suck it up and give him a call. Ask him out. There is no shame in going after something you want, and believe me, the majority of men won't be turned off by that. If he is the shy type, I can pretty much guarantee that's what he's hoping will happen.
How to ask him out. Call him up and ask him on a date. Bake some cookies and bring them to his front door. Have your car "stall" in front of his house and ask if he can help figure out what's wrong. I don't care what it is, but come up with a reason to talk to him and then don't miss that opportunity to ask him on a date. Don't gush out everything you told us here, but tell him that you think about him and were hoping he was thinking about you too. That you'd really like it if you can go out sometime soon together. If he is interested it would be hard for him to do anything but say "sure" at this point. Good luck!
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