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writes: My daughter is 24 yrs old and has lived at home all her life. I'm her dad btw. We live in Austin and after she gets married she's moving to London because her fiancee got a job there. I keep on hearing and reading things like I'm going to be replaced and how hes the most important man in her life now. It worries me. I know I have to let her move on and I want her to be happy, but how do you finally let go?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 "A son a son till he takes a wife,
a daughter's a daughter all her life."
You'll be just fine, Dad. We all go through it and trust me, she'll stay in constant contact, especially once she starts her family. Then a mircle happens, your IQ shoots way up. hee
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): Dad, My 27 y/0 daughter is getting married and moving away from S.C. to, of all places, Austin, TX. Funny how I arrived at this site - guess I'm looking for answers too. When you've been the protector and supporter as long as we have it is just too hard to let go. The options are few, but like any form of grief I believe that I have to go through to the pain of letting her go and choose to move on in an environment that no longer contains her physical presence. I'll do my best to stay in touch, it won't be the same, but it is an option. I'll remain hopeful that someday we can be closer but in the meantime I'll work hard at accepting our new place. Being a good Dad was never meant to be easy and of all the sacrifices we've made on our daughters behaves, letting go may be the most challenging. Best
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reader, amandairene +, writes (18 February 2006):
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The feelings a girl has for her husband are completely different from those she has for her Daddy. Don't worry. It will be fine. Just remeber if she has little arguments with him, she'll propbably always confide in you and know you will always love her. London is far away, but thank heavens for the internet, webcams, email etc so you can keep in touch, any time of the day. You will never lose her and make sure you let her know that. And because your daughter is so special to you, don't think you are losing her, but think you are also gaining a son in law.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2006): Dad, you can never be replaced because you both are so loved dearly by her. Yes, he will be the most important man in her life, now. And he should be. He'll soon be her husband. She is going to be building a family and a future with this man and he will be the father to your grandchildren. But that will never lessen the love and devotion she has for you. You both are two separate people who will both play two separate important roles in her life and you won't be compared. I think you already know that. But as the old saying goes "you will be gaining a son" and I'm sure you are happy for her choice. Good luck and keep being just you. That's probably what she loves about you the most.
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