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writes: Do you know what those fiery relationships are like? The ones where two people are so in love, but somehow, they can't manage to get along - they never want to hurt each other, but somehow, unwittingly, always say/do the wrong thing? Not the serious kind of things, like cheating, etc. - just the constant, once a week, misunderstanding that leads to an argument that ends in hurt feelings.When a relationship like that ends, what should you do? Both people are still so in love, but they both have such mixed feelings. On the one hand, deep down, they both want to believe that somehow, someday, things could work out - they'd figure out a way for things to just be good, just be easy - and they could be together and happy. But on the other hand, they're scared of holding onto that hope, and worried that the best thing to do would be to just run away.Can a relationship like this ever work? Is it best to just avoid each other for a while, even if the person who ended things wants to stay close friends? And if you do just avoid each other for a while, what are the chances that you could ever work things out, considering that it's not the feelings for each other that messed things up - just the similarities in temperament? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): Give each other plenty of time and space. Fiery relationships that end often end up back in the bedroom which can cause more problems.
Leave each other alone for a while - maybe it will take a while to become friends. Don't expect it or want it to happen immediately.
You need time to reflect and let things die down before you rush into being mates.
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