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writes:I've been getting along well with this guy. We went on a date a few days ago and it all went well.However, throughout the date all he did was stare. Please, I'm really not big headed. But it was so intense that I became really awkward and shy. I didn't even finish my meal. We were having a banter on the phone a couple of day's ago. He told me he would like to get to know me better, and go out again. So me being me, I told him how I felt about the staring, but I tried to make it sound like a light hearted joke. I know, stupid me.He then came out with 'we're too different. It hit me at the dinner. This isn't going to happen.'If that's how he feels then I respect that, but I don't quite understand why he said that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I didn't meet him on the Internet. He was the one pursuing me from day one. We met through mutual friends. I think perhaps he is insecure and thought my comment was some sort of rejection. He thought he would get in there first, hence his comment. But I have decided not to go anywhere near this man and just move on.Thanks for your replies :)
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (26 September 2013):
 Did you meet him on internet dating? If you did, it's a rough way to meet someone as you never really know what sort of person you are going to meet.
Most people put on a 'good, enthusiastic' front when chatting and e-mailing but when they meet face to face that's when they decide if the other person is really for them or not. It's similar to a blind date except you dont have your friends putting in a good word for you!
Men are very visual thats why they push to meet quickly because they dont really want to get to know someone unless they have seen them in the flesh and decided if they fancy them or not...women like to get to know someone a little better before they meet.
Don't be disheartened, be as honest as you can about what you look like, always have up to date pics on a dating profile and state what it is you are looking for. That way when a guy sees you in the flesh, he knows exactly whos going to turn up on the date...
Seems shallow and yes we should all be looking at the personality, but thats just the way things are and they won't ever change.
If you didn't meet him online, then still don't take it personally...he probably just wasnt for you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello, thanks for your comments! He called me and you're all so right. I'm wasting my time.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 September 2013):
 He's a socially awkward person, obviously.
Why do you feel the need to understand him, if things aren't going to happen between you two? Waste of time, isn't it?
Good luck with the next guy!
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reader, YoungButNotNaive  +, writes (25 September 2013):
 Did he call you, or did you call him? I ask because it doesn't make sense for him to call you and say he wants to see you again in order to get to know you better, then say you're too different. If you were the one who called him, that's a different story. That means he just said he wanted to see you again to be polite. Then, when you confronted him about the staring, he decided to just be honest.
If he was the one that called, though, then it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. You'd be wasting your time to wait for him to figure it out.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 September 2013):
 Eh, move on. If he can't take you telling him that the starring is a little unnerving, then maybe it's for the better to not try and date him no more.
Personally, I think he was just looking for an excuse to not see you again.
You can do better.
TRY again!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (25 September 2013):
Sound like a really 'touchy' guy who can't take a bit of banter. You were right to tell him his staring made you uncomfortable...then he's 'I'd like to see you again' and then he's 'We're too different'???
Sounds like a flake!!!
Move on, forget him and his confusing behaviour!
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