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writes: Ive got a really serious problem , Im a lap dancer exotic dancer in Australia , I love my job , make great money , and really love seeing the guys get all turned on with their Big erections that they can hardly control . The problem is my husband , I get really turned on dancing and its become a sexual release . When I get home , the last thing I want is Sex with my husband , I feel like Ive already had sex 100 times . Then when we do have sex I just cant get into it . Some of the other girls , go home and have great sex , but I seem to have a mental block ..Can anyone offer any advice as to what I could possibly do to solve what has become a serious problem .. Thanks in Advance all ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Why not start by giving him a lap dance and show? (Sounds like you enjoy being in charge and unattainable so play out that facet of your tastes. Tease him mercilessly and see if that excites you. You may start thinking of your husband while at work knowing that it's all a build up for tonight...
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 You say, you feel total release, means satisfaction during your dancing. You share customer's erection and feel total release...I think, your this experience of satisfaction with erection is great value in itself. To have sex with your husband means total intercourse, which is different activity. Your mind do not cooperate with body.
The best way for you is that you drop your determination to have vaginal penetration of your husband, but concentrate on enjoying his erection for long to longer time... as you did in your job. Here you can add, some oral stimulation, some masturbation, and ask your husband to do fingering work for you...This is erotic sex-play, has power to give you unbelievable sexual satisfaction.
Such sexual play is termed as TANTRA, In Indian language, and can be termed in English language as EROTIC PLAY...
Please read some material on tantric sexuality...Do not compare your experience with other...but judge your experience with your own vision. Best luck.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 Caring Guy hit that one right on the head.
I have a similar problem. I work in the building trades. I spend all day making and fixing things. When I get home,if My wife asks me to fix something around the house, I tend to put it off as long as I can. It's just like work.
What I usually have to do is make the project special by doing it as a gift for her. When I make that shift in my mind, the chore becomes pleasurable.
You need to make loving your husband different and special.
FA
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 May 2010):
Maybe the problem is you feel like a sex object, rather than a woman. You spend all your time dancing and having men lust after you, but little time with a man actually romancing you. Perhaps if you and your husband spent more time romancing each other, you'd feel loved as well as sexy and then perhaps you'd feel more like sex.
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