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writes:Me and my 19 year old boyfriend grew up together. we just started talking in November Im 16 i will be 17 next month. my dad wants us to brake up because he thinks that he is too old. Do you think i am too young for him my mom and his family thinks that its ok for us to go out together. Reply to this Question
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reader, sunshine99  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Hi I'm sorry but your dad wants to butt out! Your the age of consent and old enough to see who you want to. 19 is nothing!. As long as he respects you and makes you happy then there is nothing at all wrong with this. I am 25 and married to my husband who is a very young 60!!! - GO FOR IT GIRL. BE HAPPY ..... Good Luck
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Hi there,
It sounds like a fine age difference to me. Your Dad might be worried because to him, this 19 year old is a "man" and you're still his little girl. He might be worried that this 19 year old is only out for one thing and will pressure you to do things. Your Dad is being... a Dad. He's just looking out for you.
Bring your boyfriend around for dinner some night - if your Mom thinks it's okay that you're going out, she can act as a buffer zone. Let your Dad get to know your boyfriend and get comfortable around him. If they haven't really met before, right now, your boyfriend is just some hormone-crazed 19 year old guy in your Dad's mind. Invite your boyfriend over more often so that your Dad can really get to know him.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (19 March 2007):
No i dont think he is to old for you. Tell your dad he should be grateful you didnt find someone even older, alot of girls go out with way older men. You are both still teenagers and i think your dad is over reacting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): No, I don't think he is too old to go out on a date with you, but I think you are too young to be sexually intimate with him or anyone else.
Talk with your Dad and ask him if there is something else he is not telling you about that makes him not like you dating this boy. Perhaps he is afraid that you will get too involved with him and not go on to further your education (college), or maybe this boy lacks ambition, and your Dad thinks that you need to stay away from him. Does he drink, do drugs, hang out with thugs?
Our parents are usually better judges of character about who is right for us than we are especially at your young age. Sorry to say, but if your Dad does not like him, he probably has a good reason, and as long as you are under his care, you will need to follow his advice, after all he does have your best interests at heart even if it does not seem like it because you are enamored with this young fella.
Give it some time, and just remain friends for now, and if you still have feelings for him when you are a bit older, then your Dad may come around. I don't know what it is about him other than age that concerns your Dad, but my gut tells me there is something else besides his age.
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reader, rainduckie +, writes (19 March 2007):
I think that you are the only one that can decide whether the two of you fit together. Just make sure to take it slow and give yourself time before the two of you commit. I would advise to just have fun and arrange activities, such as maybe camping, where he and your dad can interact. This way your dad can see what a good guy he is (no matter what his age) and any guy who is willing to put time into not only his relationship with you but also to getting know your family is a keeper. Good luck.
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reader, rainduckie +, writes (19 March 2007):
I think that you are the only one that can decide whether the two of you fit together. Just make sure to take it slow and give yourself time before the two of you commit. I would advise to just have fun and arrange activities, such as maybe camping, where he and your dad can interact. This way your dad can see what a good guy he is (no matter what his age) and any guy who is willing to put time into not only his relationship with you but also to getting know your family is a keeper. Good luck.
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