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writes:I'm 15,Me and my older brother saw texts on my dad's fone to another woman saying 'Honey, I love you'. My parents are still together, but my mum doesn not know.My brother and I confronted him RIGHT now and he lied, we showed him the texts and he said 'You shouldn't be going through my phone in the first place.'We have left it for now, and we aren't talking. My mum isn't home at the moment. I need to tell someone, I cant talk to my brother about it because he is angry and he doesnt want to talk about it anymore, who do I do to?This is really breaking my heart, to see that my dad has been cheating. Especially since my parents have been together for nearly 28 years.What do I do?Who do I speak to?
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Did you get the phone number? GET IT! Keep 2 copies, one that you confront your dad with, and one that you keep hidden in a safe spot. Demand an explanation! If it were me, I would call the lady, and ask her to explain. This may be bad advise, I am just a little BOLD when it comes to these kind of things.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Do nothing more than you've already done for the time being. Men, even good fathers are flawed and the majority of married men will cheat at some time during their marriage. Even if you have solid proof that he is cheating it does not mean that he doesn't love your Mum (and I say this from personal experience). OFTEN it is just a short term thing which seems as if it adds some excitement to his life and often it comes to an end and the marriage goes on unaffected.Right now, regardless of what he said to you, your Dad knows that you know and he is frantically working out what to do. There is a really good chance that he will do the right thing and quietly bring this affair to an end without the need for further confrontation. Apply the principle of "Least Said, Soonest Mended". Making this a big confrontation leads to one of two outcomes, either your father leaves OR he is forced into making an apology which will feel humiliating to him. No one wants a husband or a father who feels humiliated in front of his family. That leads to all kinds of bad things including a lot more cheating further down the road.Of course, if you give him this chance and he doesn't take the opportunity to put things right then you might have to take things up a notch "Dad, we know what's going on. What are you going to do about it?"Please, please don't tell a teacher.
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reader, clickyclick +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Okay first off don't jump to conclusions, this may or may not be what you think it is. There are many types of love, not just the romantic type. This women may just be an old friend who has just gone through a tough ordeal and she is just thanking him for helping her.Though on the other hand if he is seeing this other lady he might just be a bit confused and is just swaying a little you need to show him that you love him and your mum and support them both. IF you're sure he is cheating then you need to tell your mum that her and your dad need to talk and need to keep everything out in the open. But don't just listen to my advice because you, your brother mother and father are the only ones who can really sort this out. You can do it. Think of the solution not the problem.Hope everything turns out fine.ClickyX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Confront your dad again, ask him to explain it to you fully, otherwhise you will tell your mother. Your mother really has the right to know. But meanwhile is there a teacher who you have a special bond with at school who you can talk to? or the school therapist. Also there's the internet like this.
I hope it helped
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