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writes: My g/f of 4 months read the Messenger history that I had for the past 3 months with an ex of mine in which on several occasions we had cyber sex. Me and my ex had also discussed the problems that me and my current g/f were having, in which my ex had said that she didn't think that my relationship was going to work. Now my g/f isn't sure whether she can trust me again. What can I do to convince her that I will never hurt her again? I love her and I don't want to lose her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2005): Seriously, cyber with the ex? Dude you never broke that relationship off, so naturally this relationship thats relatively new isnt going to last, can't eat your cake and have it too. Do this new Lady a favour and remove yourself and all your baggage from her life. Your ex knows it wont last also, You did it to yourself. Lata
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reader, becky05 +, writes (29 June 2005):
If my boyfriend did this, hed be out the door!
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
Dude, if you're having cybersex with your ex & sharing personal info about your girlfriend...no wonder your girlfriend doesn't trust you.She needs to tell you where to go...& it's not the bedroom!Grow up !
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2005): First off how you gonna sit up there and ask for some HELP? If I was her I wouldn't trust you either. As a matter of fact I would DUMP you the minute I saw the messages. And how you gonna sit up there and talk about your problems with your ex about your current g/f? You should have been talking about your issues with your current g/f. And it seems like to me you ex didn't want you to last w/ her anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2005): You have a funny way of showing someone that you love them. Of course you dont love her, if you did you wouldnt be having cyber sex with your ex and totaly disrespecting your girlfriend. Do this poor girl a favour and let her go and be with someone who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Hopefully she will come to her senses herself and dump you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2005): you prat! if you were my boyfriend you'd be potted!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): What have you done to deserve her trust???? You cheated on her - you don't sound very trustworthy to me. Sounds more like you're sorry you got caught, not sorry you did anything wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): to be honest I also don't think the relationship will work. If there are trust issues already after only 4 months then something is very very wrong. I can totally understand why she has a problem with you having cyber sex with your ex and the worst thing is you are talking to her about your current relationship problems when you should be talking to your girlfriend. I suggest you severe all ties with your ex and attempt to actually commit to your new girlfriend. If you can't then call it a day and don't put the poor girl through any more pain and upset
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): You've got 2 options, buddy! #1- If you want to keep your current girlfriend, deal with the mistrust issue. You broke her trust now you've got to regain it. And STOP ALL communication with your ex-girlfriend, isn't there a reason WHY she's your ex-girlfriend in the first place? #2- If you would like to keep speaking to your ex-girlfriend, stop leading your current one on and cut her loose. She can find someone who is willing to give her the love and attention she deserves. WHY should she put up with your issues of you and your ex? And lastly, I strongly believe you should steer away from relationships...why? Because you need to work on the concepts of love, trust, honesty, loyalty, and how to treat others as you would like to be treated. These concepts have to be learned by one's self, so when you've grasped these you might be ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): If I was your girlfriend I think that it would help to know that you had no intention of doing this again, and one way of showing this is to delete/block your ex as a contact. If you ever want to contact her then you still have her email address, but deleting/blocking her will help to re-assure your current gf. If you're serious about your gf and really do love her then you need to stop speaking to your ex - clearly there's still temptation there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): You sound like a real loser, having "cybersex" with your ex yet claiming that you love your current girlfriend. I don't think that she should trust you again. You've cheated on her using the newest means of infidelity. And what's worse is that you have real life memories of the woman you masterbated with over the computer. That's a direct kick in the face to your current girl. You don't deserve forgiveness my friend. You are feeble when put to the test, and lack any internal source of strength or character. Fall once, fall hard, but be sure to learn deeply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): well if you ask me your girlfriend shouldnt of read your messages because she is invading your privacy so it should you that dosent trust her
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): Beg forgiveness, delete the messenger history and stop using your ex as your relationship counsellor.
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