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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now.Everything was going really well until recently when he has started having major problems at work, having to work late or over weekends.All of his attention is on this now and we hardly ever speak or meet up any more.When I send emails/texts etc he either doesn't reply or sends quite bland messages back.He hasn't told me he loves me at all recently either.He says he is really stressed and over-worked and cannot concentrate on anyhing else but work at the moment.Part of me feels that this is the end of our relationship, the other part of me tells me to be patient and wait until this pressure from his work is over.However, I am feeling very rejected, lonely and down, and just want a little love and attention from him.
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (8 June 2005):
Keep in mind that his job might never change...if it is stress , less demands from you is helpful...but becareful The job ( if it is the job)might just take him away completely...if it does reconsider your needs too....maybe he needs a reality check.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): Its a hard one as obviously I dont know the guy so i dont know how honest he is. If you trust him and feel you want to try and save the relationship then show him lots of attention when you do him. Take his mind off work, keep him entertained and suggest things you know he enjoys - this way he wont be able to wait to finish work and you may find he becomes closer to you as a result as you are the person providing the only pleasure and entertainment in his life. If he is worth it he'll see you for who you really are and treat you how you deserve
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): They say if you desire love, be loving, if you want attention be attentive.If you feel you are already doing all you can & he is not responding you must be loving to yourself & be assertive in getting your needs met.Tell him in a firm but loving manner that you will support him during his time of stress at work.But if he does not want to invest in any quality time with you, you will simply take that as rejection & get on with your life without him. This will help him to wake up to the fact he may lose you & not take you for granted. You see ,if you whine or cry or beg this will only push him further away, as he is already under alot of pressure.But he is a big boy, & need's to realize that he must make time for himself & the one he loves (you).
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): I hate to say it, but it sounds like he MIGHT have someone on the side. The key to your answer is communicate communicate communicate.
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