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writes:i have been with my bf for about 2.5 years, recently I have caught on to his obsession with internet porn.Porn really doesnt bother me , we have even watched it together before, but he's sneaking around looking at this all the time(well he thinks he's sneaking)Often he'll even call to see if I'm gonna be home soon , so he knows how much time he has.I have checked the history on the computer many times, and have even found out he's on there before sex and after sex.Here's the big problem a couple months ago an ex of mine , says to me that he wishes he never let me go. I also wish he didn't. I started spending time with him, and eventually we had sex. Felt like nothing has really changed. I feel like I allowed this to happen because of my bfs behavior. So confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): What you have done is way worse than what your partner has done.You just wanted to hurt your boyfriend.So you had sex with your Ex.Its like looking up and spitting in the air.It will ultimately land in your face.Have some self respect.Dump your boyfriend if you don't like it.If he values you and your relationship he will change for you.Compromises are very essential in a relationship.you could have been there when he went into counseling.Looks like he has a porn addiction."I wish I had never let you go" is one of the liners a guy will feed you in order to get into your pants.He will say jut about anything to make you into mush.Please remember this.
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reader, gabba's say  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 there is nothing wrong with porn, but cheating is sly and nasty.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (28 August 2008):
 His looking at porn did not cause you to cheat. You did that all on your own and need to take responsibility for your own actions. You are only making excuses to justify your behaviour. I agree with the other posters, either leave him or make the relationship better. You are not a victim here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Porn is no problem. As you said it dosen't bother you. Kitten is right, you are attracted to your ex. But be carefull, he is your ex for a reason, the problems you had before may still be there. Don't blame your situation on porn, if your not happy with this guy, then leave him and find someone else. Some people like to look at porn alone, they are embarrased by their hobby, so he's not sneaking, you are, by checking up on him. Either finnish the relationship or try to make it better, but stop looking for excuses to cheat, because in looking at porn, your boyfriend has remained faithfull to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008):
Have you try to find out why he is wasting his time with porn?.. Porn is fake,irrational and deceit.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Sounds like you are using that as an excuse to cheat. But if you dont want to be wih your guy anymore, why not end it?
I guess he must of felt somehow that you didn't like the porn thing with him, otherwise he wouldn't be asking when you're coming home?
C xxxxx
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