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*aya_16
writes:My crush asked me to do a threesome, he has this fantasy. he said I could choose any friend /girl/ of mine to do it and make me feel more comfortable. I am interested in having something more with Him, I'm confused. I wouldn't want to do that if it can create tension between the friend I choose and I at the time of the action, or rather to lose the relationship between my crush and me.What would you recommend me?I really want to do it because is one of my fantasies too. Also hee likes me a lot and I want him to be my boyfriend too.
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reader, yaya_16 +, writes (19 October 2014):
yaya_16 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to you all...! I already said no.. I'm not comfortable with that, I deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2014): Don't ever do something your not comfortable to impress a guy. To be honest I agree with the above posters and that he seems only interested in sex with you and not a relationship. Realize that just because a man sleeps with a women doesn't mean he wants to be with her. Men want relationships with good girls not bad girls , yes good girls get used don't let him use you. If you want this man to respect you say No !
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2014): You should ask for a guy to be the third in your threesome & see if he is still ok w/it. If yes, you may have a keeper. Go for it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 October 2014):
 I think he is only using you to make his fantasy come true which is easier with your cooperation ( you are even supposed to provide the girl ).
If you were already an established couple , it would be different. Personally it would not be my cup of tea, but I can understand how this kind of escapades may even deepen intimacy and strengthen complicity in a " real " couple. Like " we have owr own little naughty secret , hehe ".
But... a " crush " ?. Whom you only have been seeing a month ? he is soooo using you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2014): Have a threesome if you want but understand that he's probrably not going to want to be your boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2014): It doesn't sound good. You'd be better to find someone who isn't trying to push you into something you sound uneasy to do. It sounds like your basically In the classic friends with benefits situation where one of you wants more and one of you wants even less
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2014): so happy you asked first. Absolutely not. I could see possibly if you two were exclusive for years or something. Even then, not my thing.
You are still so young. I feel this will hurt and embarrass you in the end
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reader, yaya_16 +, writes (16 October 2014):
yaya_16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been dating for a month, movies, dinner, lunch knowing each other likes and dislikes... talking a lot.. and we had already a sexual intercourse.. then he asked me for that.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (16 October 2014):
I'm not going to speculate on whether or not the guy wants to be your bf because you don't give very much info. I'm guessing no simply because he seems to treat you like a booty call.
One thing I can guarantee is that if he doesn't want to be with you, a threesome won't change that.
And if he does want to be with you, a threesome may mess that up.
Do it only if you want to regardless of him.
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reader, yaya_16 +, writes (16 October 2014):
yaya_16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are ''dating'' not exclusively yet, that's why I'm confused ... men play games, say things to get us.. and then do the opposite. :/
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (16 October 2014):
 This crush is one way only. A guy who had a real crush wouldn't dream of behaving in a way that might turn a woman off him.
He absolutely is using you, OP. Without doubt.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 October 2014):
 He doesn't WANT to date you, he wants to USE you for making HIs fantasy (3-some) come through and he is USING the knowledge that YOU have a crush on him to try and manipulate you into doing it.
If you think doing this will make him your BF, you are barking up the wrong tree. If you want to try it beucase it's a fantasy of YOURS and you expect NOTHING to come of it afterwards, then it's not a big deal. However it seems to me you are thinking of doing it to PLEASE him and in HOPES that he will want to date you.
Now let's say you do the 3-some and then he becomes your BF. How long do you think it will be before he will want another 3-some and then a 4-some? or have YOU watch while he screws another girl?
I think you are being utterly unrealistic with the whole idea and I think he is being disrespectful by even asking you. Because he is asking you, because he KNOWS you have the crush and he can USE that to his advantage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2014): Um no don't do it. He obviously doesn't want you for his girlfriend if he's asking for that and you're not even dating. Wake up.
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