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writes:Hey everyone, A little advice needed so I like his boy d he's told me he likes me back but nothing seems to be happening we talk a lot and he's in my year at school as well what's nice so we get to see each other a lot.Anyway so he is a twin and I recently found out that his twin doesn't like me and thinks I'm taking him away from him! This is the last thing I want to do and I want everyone I be happy!! I feel like when I try to speak to the boy I like his brother either comes up straight away making me feel uncomfortable or he gets upset just because I'm talking to his brother what makes me upset because his is not what I want him to feel like I don't want to get between their brotherhood! However I have spoke to the boy I like about this and I have told him I will step back to make things better but he told me he doesn't want me to and enjoys being around me and I feel the same! He told me he wants something to happen between us but I don't know when and how I would respond if he asked me out as I know how upset his brother would be as look at him know wih me just talking to him and texting him!!!! I really don't know what to do but these past few days have been really hard on me and I've been pretty upset about it all and I don't know if I can carry on like this even if I do really like him and he likes me back... Please help and give me some advice on this I could really do with some peoples opinions thank you so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2015): I'm a twin! When we were younger it was really odd when my sister got her first boyfriend before me, we spent all of our time together. Can you imagine being in the same house, then the same school and classes, just constantly being with the same person all of the time and then suddenly a new person is there and you have to try and find something else to do. Twins are weird! lol. I felt a little bit jealous that my sister got a boyfriend first but then I soon found my own and as we got older we got separate friends and our own lives without each other so much. I don't think he doesn't like you it's just strange when the other twin gets a girlfriend or boyfriend first, it just takes a little bit of adjusting. Keep talking to him, it's up to him to sort out his brother because he's acting like that. You're not coming between them, his brother just needs to make his own way in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2015): You have to continue talking to your new friend and let him take care of his brother. That's not up to you. I think he knows what to say and do if his brother gets in his way.
It's natural for twins to be tight and protective of each other. One will likely be jealous of the other when they turn their attentions to outsiders. He has to learn to adjust to it, and this is a good start for them both. One has to learn to keep the other in check when he's making friends or likes a girl.
Just smile and be polite to him, and ignore his behavior.
If you're going to get all upset about it, maybe you're just too young to deal with this at all. Maybe you need a little more time before you try to deal with boys.
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reader, chipmunk37 +, writes (6 September 2015):
 The brother you like says he doesn't want you to back away, he is obviously as interested in you as you are in him. So it is his job to deal with his brother. He needs to talk to his jealous brother and assure him that you are no threat to their unique bond. The jealous brother needs to hear it straight from the horse's mouth so to speak. You are probably the first girl to show an interest in one of them and the jealous brother may also be feeling a little resentful that he doesn't have a would be girlfriend as well. I think there might be more than just jealousy about the time you are spending with the brother, maybe throw a little sibling rivalry into the mix as well. Do you have a friend you can introduce to the jealous brother?
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