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writes:I recently read a Question pertaining to a situation of a Guy with his co worker. She had a boyfriend yet had told others at work that he was taken/hers. Someone I work with also does this with me. Ive only known him for about 4 months, close as a friend for 1-2 months (since i started working with him)He tells the other workers that where "having an affair" and he wants me to play along with it. He's also told my self and others that where going to get married (of course he also likes sexual any thing that hints involving us) ... I like that he plays around with me, but I'm not sure if he wants to be FwB or just friends (I'm not looking for long term)Could this be his way of thinking I'm his (responsibility) because he was the one who finally got me hired? ... Or a reason for the attachment (we didn't know each other excepted as a friend of a mutual friend before I started working where I am now).I'm just not sure i understand it, not why he does it or what he wants from itAlso he comes up to when where alone and tells me some of this when people aren't around. He's made it appoint several times that he likes the way i dressed for halloween/and we where closing one night and i took off my hat and let my hair down (its short) but he reached out and touched it and said it was pretty down (he thought i reacted badly to him touching my hair and told our mutual friend that he was afraid he'd weirded me out... our friends a blabber mouth, and he was trying to be subtle when he said "I think Dave likes you because..." )He always catches a ride home with me ... he's even blown off other rides to get in my car. And on halloween when i worked with him i was supposed to close (but i was sick and the manager sent me home at 10pm... in stead of 12am) But he seemed kind of shocked that I was going home and told me he wouldn't have sent me home.One of my favorites (I'm not a touchy person) is that I enjoy when he touches me and he "bumps" into me a lot or touches me softly on the small of the back as he passes.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (3 November 2009):
Don't date him, I went though the same thing with a co-worker and it went really bad. Go see human resources right away, because you're probably not the only one that he's pulled this on. You may not realize it, but what he is doing is sexual harassment, even talking about it to other co-workers is sexual harassment. Yeah, its nice to feel wanted, but it won't end well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): The key phrase for me, in your situation, is "I like that he plays around with me."Guess what? That's EXACTLY what he is doing with you. If he actually had any intention of making you his girlfriend, he would have done it by now. Instead he's having his fun and getting a little ego stroke with you, then going home to someone else.1 -- don't you have any self-respect?2 -- don't you have any respect for his relationship? Even though it's 100% obvious that he sure as hell doesn't. This man is a whore, don't let him make you one.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 November 2009):
It sounds like he does like you, but you need to know more about him. Does he have a girlfriend? I think more than anything that you need to talk to him and see what he wants. I couldn't tell you exactly what's going through his head, but I'm sure he likes you. Talk to him and see where it leads.
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