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writes:My best friend since childhood slept with my boyfriend. It has been a year since I have talked to her and I dumped the guy. She keeps calling me telling me she wants to be friends agian. Should I forgive her? I'm afriad she may try and do the same thing.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 Hi there, She may have been your girlfriend, but she was or is not your friend. Friends respect each other, they have limitations regarding certain things, there are boundaries. She wants you to forgive her? Why? So she can do it again. She is obviously jealous of you, and had no problem destroying the relationship between you and your boyfriend.
She is a woman who enjoys conquests, of other people's
significant others, if you would do some research, you would probably find that, she has done the same thing to another "friends". Do not take this person into your confidence again, she is poison, as far as I am concerned. It is your decision, but think about what you would be doing to yourself, are you going to have to monitor your next boyfriend and her? What kind of life is that? Be free
of the nonsense, please. I had a person in my life like that, she was no friend, she would flirt with my male friends, competing in essence, to show that she was the more desired woman. People like this need physcological help, they are always trying to seduce men, whoever they are involved with. Stay far, far away from her, and by the way, be glad it wasn't your husband, that she decided to
seduce. Take care of yourself. Be wise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): If you can forgive her, then forgive her. You only have one life and that life is very short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Well I know how you feel cos my best friend slept with my fiance on a few occassions and in the end I couldn't trust either of them ever again and dumped both of them! She hasn't made any contact or tried to explain herself in anway for what she did. Thats over 3 years ago now.So move on, make new friends - ones you can trust with your next boyf and put it down to part of growing up and an experience in life never to be repeated......Best of luck xx
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 Hi
I'm assuming she is in her 30's? And it only happened a year ago? In which case i wouldn't bother if it was me.
If this had happened yonks ago, she may well have changed as she grew up, but in the last year?
I couldn't forgive that sort of betrayal from a grown adult that ive known for that long.
C xxxxx
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