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writes:about a week ago i decided to go to a party with a friend. it was a halloween party so everyone had costumes on. when we got there she introduced me to her friend N. she didnt know N and me knew each other. N is my brother's friend. he had gone to my house for a visit with one of my cousins four months ago. the day that he went to my house he was conversation with my mom about his long relationship with his ex. i didnt really pay attention to the conversation. i remember my mom's advice to him was not to think about relationships or girls right now just himself. get his stuff together.so fast forward to the day of the party, N and i started talking the whole night. we were drinking a bit. all of a sudden he kissed me (my thought was, what in the world!) then he kissed me again. (it was nice, he's cute. i was flattered by the fact that he liked me) right after the kiss, he was asking if we should tell my brother or would he mind. i was just saying i dont know. my brother is a jelous brother.when we left he told me he liked me. people saw us and know we kiss, i dont know if they would tell my brother. two days after that i told him i didnt think this was a good idea, we could only stay as friend. he said he wanted to talk about it in person but it ended up in a date. he wants to take me out everywhere.i decided to invite him to my house for a party i was having. i wanted to see how he would act around my brother. i decided to tell my friend to bring N over pretending is her date. as soon as they walked in my brother greeted them. he looked so nervous, he couldnt hide it. i honestly thought it was funny how nervous he got. i saw how my brother and him got a long and i felt wrong, like if i was taking my brother's friend away. my sister is happy that someone wants to take me out and likes me. im reallly confused and i dont know what to do. i need help of advice
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reader, rainbowsarepretty +, writes (9 November 2010):
I don't think you should be worried about taking your brothers friend away, hopefully if anything continues between the two of you it could make them closer. I think you should discuss it with N, and decide on what you should do. If your brother gets upset, this should be something that one could get over easily. Relationships like this work though my Dad's best friend from high school has been dating my aunt for probably 10 years now. So good luck to you!
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reader, hiro06 +, writes (9 November 2010):
You have to realize that your brother is always going to be your brother no matter what happen, but men have a bros before type motto. Also you have to realize that this isnt the first boy to like you and it wont be the last promise unless your like 85 or something lol. But you and N should confront your brother and tell him how you guys feel out of respect and stop hiding like little children. You should also reallze that this could also ruin a freindship between your brother and N. I personal say go for it but your brother has to realize that you are going to date other people that you are attract to and have to let him know not to be so insecure about his sister dating. You are old enough to decide whom and whom not to date and that he shouldnt get so jealous all the time. Do what makes you happy you only live once =).
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