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writes: hi i am 13 and i am confused my 19 year old step brothers friend keeps on nagging me and asking me if want to do things with him. he has kissed me plenty of times which i dont mind we hug every time we see each other and we have snogged but that is as far as i have let it go. the other night he was staying at my step brothers and so was i, i dont know if it was a set up or what ever but he asked me if i would do things with him. i didnt even know what half of it was and he askeed me if i would have sex with him. i dont know what to say to him can any body help please thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, ycarley  +, writes (17 March 2014):
Hey I know exactly how you feel I've had this happen to me by not only my brothers friends but also other older guys that thought I was a "freak" if u know wat I mean when really I'm still a virgin sometimes it was tempting because they were cute and I wanted to know how it feels but I stayed strong and didn't do it only difference is im 14 and most of the guys that ask me r 20 and older my brother n law even flirts with me when im drunk I wanted to tell but I thought about the consequences so I figure I would keep it to myself
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): hey it is only me again lol i went to my grans and my brother was there so i had a ittle chat ith him ad he said he was going to threaten hs friend with the police and tell him to leave me alone (THANK GOD) he said he didnt know he was like this and the whole idea of us sleeping at his house on the sae nigt was to socialise thanx again xx
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reader, carebear  +, writes (2 June 2006):
 Hi
The best advice I can give you and this is very similar to something that happend to my own niece is TELL AN ADULT as you are only 13 he has all the power and you have none he would even say you said it was alright to kiss you this is wrong!! and he wants to sleep with you (does he want a criminal record) and to be branded a phedophile cause that's what he will get if he continues this.you actually sound more mature than he is and by asking advice on this i hope you can talk to an adult and tell them what has been going on cause as the saying goes you live and learn.
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reader, camille +, writes (2 June 2006):
 Tell him to get lost! Don't flirt with him, don't talk to him, don't hang around with him. He's using you. He's trying to take advantage of your vulnerability. You are young and he should know better. Be more adult than him by telling your step brother that if he ever knowingly invites his friend over at the same time as you, you'll report his friend to the police, he'll soon back off. (Or if you feel able and not scared, tell a parent what's going on).
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): hi i am the writer of this qestion. all your advice has been great and especially hannieseds i have to go to my grans today and my step brother will be there so i am going to have a little quiet word with him and take it from there. i wasnt ever planning on having sex with this man but i thought i was ok kissing maybe i am too young for all that sort of thing now any way thanx every one xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (2 June 2006):
 What this guy is asking you to do is illegal. You are two young to be thinking about his kind of encounter, let alone be involved with someone quite so much older. Clearly tell him no, and you should really stop the kissing etc with this guy, hes not right for you if hes wanting to put pressure you on you. If you get to the point that he wont leave you alone and keeps pestering you, tell an adult, as this cannot carry on and its not fair putting this on you. Whatever you do dont go headlong into this and have sex with him, if anything try and keep away from him as it clearly isnt going to do you any good being in his company.
Take care
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (2 June 2006):
 This is illegal and very inappropriate of your step brother's mate to even suggest it. It's good that you haven't bowed to his pressure.
Is your step brother aware of what is going on? I would consider telling him or another adult because I don't think this sounds like a particularly safe position for you to be in - very inappropriate of this 19 year old guy to ask to sleep with a 13 year old.
I know you probably like him but I would consider not kissing him anymore or doing anything like that. I know it might be hard to understand but when you are 19 you will see it all pretty clearly.
I would avoid situations with him and find a nice boy your own age.
Good luck and keep safe.
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (2 June 2006):
This is illegal. You are under the age of to agree to sex. TEll him you are not ready yet or break up with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): it sounds like a set up to me...you're far to young to be messing around with a 19 year old! and far to young to do such things! stay away from this guy! all he wants is sex and he doesnt care one bit for you. you dont want to end up young and pregnant or get an std...you'll ruin your teen years if you mess around with this guy. he shouldnt even attempt to mess around with you. what kind of guy is he??? he's messing with a minor here and yes you are just a child. he's abusing you! dont do it, you are better than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): Theres not much that i can say that could help but i think you need to have a think and find out if you think your ready to take the big leap.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (2 June 2006):
 Hey there,
You should get yourself out of this situation right away. Tell him to leave you alone! You obviously don't really want to have sex with him, otherwise you would have done it by now and not have posted this question.
You are only 13 years old, do you really want to lose your virginity this young and to someone who you know if only interested in you 'doing things with him?' As soon as he gets what he wants, he will move onto someone else. He isn't worth it, don't lower yourself to this boy. Hold out until you are ready and more mature.
Be strong! xxx
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