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writes:I've just had a terrible fight with my 17 year old brother. I am 19. I've always helped him out, and have really been nothing but nice to him. He treats me like crap, and today he finally told me he hated me. I am sure he meant it, and I actually believe him because of his attitude towards me. It hurts to know that. I even started crying. I don't know if I should just ignore him for a while or what. He's only nice to my mom and me when he wants something. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, N91  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 I've told both my brother and sister in the past that I hate them, they've reciprocated the feeling many a time, but that's just what siblings do when they're arguing and things are heated, they say things they don't mean.
If you're pissed off it's easy to say 'I hate you!' but it's not something that you mean, at the end of the day, they're your flesh and blood and it's just embedded in you that you love them no matter what, as they're your family.
Don't sweat it, just let things cool off, my sister does an awful lot for me which I really appreciate, but every now and again we argue and we both say things we don't mean deep down, it's just part of life unfortunately.
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 whatever, there are some siblings that are just better out of your life. I don't know if its true in your case, as for me, there's nothing that makes me happier than not being forced to live with the selfish destructive hateful pain in the - That is my brother... You're 19, you will be out of the house soon. Some sons from single moms are just impossible, again, I don't know if that applies...
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reader, In.love.with.him +, writes (6 June 2012):
 My brothers and myself would fight all of the time we still do occasionally. He's being a teenage or maybe he has some issues deep down tell him you love him and leave him alone for a while. Goodluck
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 He's being a normal, cranky teenager. Trust me, I know, I have a 21 year old brother, he's the crabbiest old man on this planet but ONLY with his family; with friends he's an entirely different person. He's very moody and irritable most of the time but his heart is in the right place and I'm sure your brother is the same. He's just being a difficult teenager. Of course he's nice to you when he wants something, that's how they all are! Dont let him get to you, just let him be and ignore what he says. He only picks on you because he knows it bothers you
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): He's just being a teenager, it's ok. He can't really hate you, you're family. I dislike my sister, she's a serious pain in my ass. But I love her, no matter what. He is just going through some awkward phase, that no one can explain. Being a guy just makes that phase worse, cause guys can be jerks about everything. Avoid him for a few days, he'll come around. Don't worry he loves you, and he's just upset about something and takes it out on those he cares about.
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reader, lily13524 +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Well the only obvious answer to your question would be that your brother is a teenager and is just going through normal teenage patterns.This includes lashing out at family members.I don't think your brother truly hates you,he was just angry in the moment and said stuff he doesn't mean.You should try to speak with him..And also you should give him some space and be sure to be at his side in a split moment when he needs your help.You must understand that he is growing up and he needs to make his own decisions and his own mistakes.Probably you are too over-protective of him.Just give him some space and see how this goes.
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