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writes: I (I'm 15) recently loss both of my parents. My brother (he's 19) had make a choice let live with him or go live with a foster home. And you know what he picked over me HIS GIRLFRIEND (also 19). I'm in foster care now. Its like doesnt my brother cares about me anymore. Why would he put in foster care instead of taking me in?My bro call me telling his girlfriend move in with him and doesn't have enough space for another roommate. I didn't really want to talk with him so I said I had finish my school work.At school I'm being tease because I have no parents. I'm getting F`s in all my classes. This one kid kept telling I'm a loser so I sock him in the face giving him a blooding nose! My foster mom call my brother saying pick on kids at school. I'm just mad the all time. Does my brother still care?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): mmmm... you sound very familiar... you didn't write nasty things about your brother's girlfriend on facebook did you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Yes babes, he dose care, but he's just a kid himself and he really doesn't know what to do...
How do I know, because we've had brother's and sister's come here, and they are suffering because they had to their family go into care. He's not a full adult, he needs your help too. He needs to know what is going on in your life, he needs you to help him to look after you. You don't have to live in the same house, to know he still loves you, and he cares and wants the best for you. You living squashed up in his house is not the best thing (he believed) he thought you would be happier in a bigger place, with adults that know how to look after you.
Forget about those kids at school, or look down at them, because they ain't got no manners or kindness in them, and if their parents really knew what they were like, there would be hell to pay. If you are having problems you can always talk to the headmistress or teachers at school. They know how hard it is for you, and they are hoping that everything works out right and you grow up well. If you are having problems they will contact your foster parents or your brother and try to get it sorted out.
It's not that your brother doesn't care, but he made the hard, and very adult decision to get you some extra help and leave you with adults to look after. He needs you as much as you need him, he will be feeling so bad about himself, that he couldn't take you in and he will be as guilty as hell... Never think your not loved, he's trying to do his best and he is very young himself....
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reader, MutantKitten  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 You're in a tough situation.Your brother probably cares alot for you!!!Maybe he thinks he's not mature enough to raise a younger sibling, but doesn't want to admit it. 19 is pretty young for that much responsibility.Maybe he can't financially or emotionally support it.I understand why you're angry. You need to talk to someone about it. A counsellor at school, something. Those kids at school are assholes. You should talk to your foster mum /social worker/school about it. But worse comes to worse, you can be out at 18!!!! foster kids have easier access to OSAP, scholarships, bursaries and that sort of thing, so you've got a bright future!! I'd say buckle down at school for now (if you can), and find an outlet for your anger that's healthy. Martial Arts class, a sport, breakdancing, anything! you can make new friends who will stand up for you doing those things too. Getting involved in charities, and connecting with other kids in similar situations might help too.Anyway, you sound like a strong kid. You'll be okay. You should read some Martin Luther King. He's got some awesome things to say about triumphing over adversity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): HiYeshe is just young and probably wanting to have a grown up sexual relationship with his girlfriend, and thinks it best if you are not there. But it does not mean he does not care...he does.Good luck
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reader, thebaystud22  +, writes (14 December 2008):
You have anger which you should. I don't believe your brother understands completely how you feel inside. But perhaps he is struggling too inside. Brother relationships are tough but I think you 2 need to talk. He cares, brothers have a love hate relationship, just try to tell him how much you need him
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