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*onfusd31
writes:Hello my father abused his sisters child for 10 years from the ages of 4 to 10 she got as far as reporting it to the police but found it too traumatic an experience and couldnt face court. I always showed symptoms of abuse but when my cousin revealed that i was in the bedroom when my father abused her (she used to babysit us and often slept over) i put it down to that i must have witnessed something. A few months ago however my brother remembers him abusing another child when they were doing an odd job at a house and remembers me playing sexually explicit games when i was 4years old and he was 3. He told me all the horrible details and i had a bit of a breakdown. the thing is i now know without a shadow of a doubt that he abused myself and both my siblings we all show classic signs of sexual abuse but only my brother remembers some of the details. i feel trapped and i dont know what to do as he now has a 3year old boy and a baby due in November. please help
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reader, penta  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 If someone had been able to rescue your brother, cousin and you, but didn't, how would you feel about that person?
You need to make sure that nothing happens to your half-siblings. If you can't convince your cousin to help, you still need to do something for them.
I wish I had easier advice for you. I'm sorry. Good luck.
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reader, confusd31 +, writes (9 August 2007):
confusd31 is verified as being by the original poster of the question As i have said my cousin refuses to go through with the case she has a family of her own now and is terrified of him. my father seems like a really lovely man and because my brother and i were so young and only have snippets of memories we are afraid that we will not be believed.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (9 August 2007):
Go to the social services and the police and file a complaint and issue a prosecution against this monster NOW. This guy needs to be taken away from his new wife and children NOW.
I know too many people who are scarred for life when they are abused by an adult in a position of trust and control. They often get away with it scot free and never end up facing the consequences of their actions.
This guy needs to pay the price for what he has done and he needs to be scarred for life the same way he has scarred those others. In notifying the authorities you will be rescuing these young children from a potential life of hell similar to what you must have been through.
Also if they go through hell over the next ten years and later confront you - what the hell are you going to say to answer when they say - "This happened to you - so why didn't you say something when you could have done?"
I for one wouldn't ever want to be in the shoes of anybody who would ever have to answer a question like that to another victim who needn't have been.
Get the guy booked - get him behind bars and let the whole world know who this monster is so he will NEVER be able to abuse minors and take a respectable place in our society EVER again.
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reader, penta +, writes (9 August 2007):
Talk to the mother of these children. Now. You have to make sure he doesn't hurt anyone else.
If possible, go visit her with all the other people he's molested so that she can't deny it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): You need to get these children taken away from this man. You know he'll abuse them too. Please get help for these innocent children's sake. This man is sick. I am very sorry you & your siblings went through this. A father should never harm his children, he is there to protect them. Go get help a.s.a.p. and ask your siblings to be with you to tell your stories to the law or child protection services.
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