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writes:Ever since I was about 16, my breasts have been different sizes. Now that I'm 19, they're still different. I'd say it's a good cup size difference, so it's obvious when I'm naked. Luckily, you can't really tell when I have a shirt on, although my cleavage isn't exactly even.I'm incredibly insecure about it, (along with a billion other things) and now that I've gotten my first serious boyfriend, I'm becoming more and more conscious of my breasts and it's ruining simple things for me like cuddling. I'm worried he'll get too close and notice they're off.I know it's normal, and everyone I've talked to about it said I should wait and that everyone develops differently. But at 19 I feel like they're never going to even out by just waiting.I read that birth control pills may increase breast size, and other than being pregnant I'm not sure what else would naturally make the smaller one bigger. The last time I talked to my gynaecologist she didn't offer any advice at all other than the "its perfectly normal" spiel.So I guess I'm asking if any of the females here have had this problem and how you fixed it? How can I maybe hide this difference from my boyfriend whenever we decide to get more intimate? I'm far too self conscious about other things with my body to even try to convince myself he'd act like it's no big deal, (he's the immature 21 year old and I'm his first girlfriend) so I'm really hoping for a realistic solution. It seems that fake boobs and plastic surgery is the only way to go, and I really don't want that.
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reader, jtw  +, writes (10 January 2013):
Hi I have had different size boobs since I was 12, I never told anyone and always hid it with extra padded bras as mine are very different sizes being a 36 b on my right one and a 36 dd on my left and I also tried to hide it from my partner but he noticed it and he didn't mind yes even tho he didn't mind I still won't let him touch or see them even after 4 years of being together, I finally plucked up the courage yo go to my gp as it is very depressing I was referred for funding in the NHS and I am now having my operating to have a boon job to correct them, so just talk to ur gp about it and things should be sorted eventually if u feel comfortable telling ur partner he may understand but if he doesn't he clearly doesn't deserve u
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): i am 15 i have the same problem what i do is get the same size as my bigger breast an the smaller breast i tighten the strap as far as it can go an the bigger one just normal works wonders but i am very ashamed about my body :( so its just these things we have to cope with witch is a shame like all these things such as stretch marks an all that lot :) hope this helps
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reader, honey16 +, writes (26 August 2010):
God, i KNOW. One of my boobs is an E, and the other is a C/D. it is awful, but as they're both big its not that much of a problem. It is incredibley obvious, and every boyfriend ive ever had has noticed, and most have commented, and thought that it was quirky, and have all stipulated my boobs are their favourite part of my body. Don't do it for them sweetie, do it for you. you've said you don't want surgery, so don't have it! They aren't going to care. If he does care tell him to check his balls, i guarentee they're different too! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Well i'm soon to be 15 in a few months and I have the same problem. 1 is a B and the other is an A. It really bothers me when my boyfriend gets to close. I've recently told him about it and he was fine with it. I say if he loves you he wont care about it. The way I keep people from noticing is I wear an insert in my bra and then i put a tank top on and then my shirt and it hides everything. even if someone bumps into you they wont notice. you can even wear them in the pool. So if you do that then you can get as close as you want to your boyfriend. Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): i am 16 in three months, i totally understand Ive had my left boob a size D and my right about an b for years! and i have a boyfriend he knows about it and its the first boy Ive told, if he loves you he will stay with you if he doesn't hell leave but that means he isn't worth it. im not bothered about my boyfriend he likes it but its just that i cant wear what all my friends wear i always have to be careful in pictures and with what clothes i wear. Ive been to my doctor about it and she says it will even out by the time your 16 if not we can help but there isn't anything they can do to help apart from give me a breast implant! but im worried they will still look different then, all i want is for them to look the same size so i don't have to worry about them! i still feel continuous off taking my bra off due in sex but i try my hardest! if a boob job is what you want go for it, im going to i think and im only 16 i just feel like id ratha be dead than go on with this much longer! i hope Ive made you feel a little more comfortable!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): You see, this happens alot, but if your still at the age where you have jst started puberty, touch the side thats smaller, touch it randomly, massage it, sqeeze it alittle, do it when u have spare time, this use to happen to me when i was 14, but ever since then i was touching the side that was smaller, and now, they look normal, they are slightly small, but no one wold notice it. my left boob use to be a size b and my right boob a size a.hope this works, i know people say its an old myth, but its true infact if you have normal sizes, touch them and they will both go bigger;)
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reader, danalynn24 +, writes (27 March 2010):
well sweetie, im with you. i as well have a huge (possibly 2 cups size difference) in my breasts. it does suck. it is an inconvenience as well. i know that my bf loves me for who i am. there have been many times i was insecure about my body, but i have yet to meet a guy that actually has a prob with it. but i myself am 25 now. i have had this prob as well since maybe 14 or so. i can say its not a matter of what others think, its what you think. i know that one day i would like to have surgery. but thats me. this is one issue i have of many. and this is one issue that i can fix to feel a little more confident of myself as well. just keep your head up and love yourself. one day you will accept it, or change it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Hi, I'm 18 years old and I know exactly how you feel. I indeed have the same issue but my breats aren't just a cup size difference they are 2 and it really is depressing. I'm SUPER self-conscious and it sucks. It sucks ass. I hate being naked and looking at myself. My mom says it's normal and to wait and see if things are going to change but it's been like this for years and I'm sure I'm done growing. Things haven't changed yet! I want to get some sort or surgery but she doesn't want me to. It down right sucks because she doesn't believe in sugery I have to suffer? I have many issues because of my breasts. I don't like guys even touching me and this is why I never really had a boyfriend. Anything public that has to do wit hte body, count me out. I can't even go to the beach =/. My breasts hold me back from doing and wearing a lot of things. Well I'm just glad that I'm not the only one with these issues & looking for answers.
What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Hi there!
I am 19 too and in the same predicament as you. My right breast is almost a D while my left breast is only almost a C. It's very noticeable when I am naked as well. It really caused me to be sooo self conscious. I have only had one boyfriend and we've been together for over a year now.
I use to be afraid to cuddle, make out, ect because I thought he would notice. Then I just told him. He was immature too (only 17 at the time) I was 18 and I was going to be his first girlfriend. You know what? He did not care. He likes it that way- they are still JUST as fun to play with for them! Breasts in general turn guys on ALWAYS- and yours will turn your boyfriend on! :) Please try to work through this. I know I did and it helped me more than you could know! I use to think JUST like you did and now that I told him I am SO MUCH happier. We have made love, everything you know? And he loves me for who I am. True love transcends everything. Just remember that. If you ever want to talk IM me at operagirlforlife. I'd be happy to talk to you!
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (11 July 2009):
 I can understand how this would upset you, but please don't. If boyfriend and you get along great, but he can't get over this miniscule fact, then it's his loss.
I had something somewhat similar where some men tend to look at the tiniest flaw in a woman to break it off or give some lame excuse. Mine was my height - I'm very short and had a good friend in high school. We were as close to bf/gf without actually calling ourselves that and I finally mustered up the courage to ask him if he would like to try going to the next level in our relationship and the answer he gave me was I was too short for him. We clicked on all levels but that was the one thing he didn't like.
So love you and your body and be confident in your own skin. We're all unique :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): I have the same problem and Im 30. It hasnt "fixed its self naturally. Sorry to disappoint. Now as far as your boyfriend goes...number one...he will be so psyched just to see your boobs he probably won't even notice. Now for the mother like advice...If he does notice and act stupid about it...maybe he's too immature to be your BF and maybe ....just maybe...your too good for him. I understand insecurities trust me, but I have never had a BF notice the difference and if they did they didn't care. Guys dont worry about that stuff they just like boobies.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I think it's as high as 90% of women who has "uneven" breast sizes. Just like most people aren't 100% symmetrical in their faces, same goes for the rest of the body.
The only "fix" is surgically. However it is perfectly normal. It does suck a little since bra's come with two matching "cups".
Your boyfriend is not going to notice. He is just happy you got a pair. :) The more you pay attention to anything you consider a flaw the bigger this flaw will seem. Understand that it is perfectly normal and be glad you don't have an A cup and a DD ( I went to school with a girl with that problem).
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (10 July 2009):
 If our boyfriend - or anyone else for that matter - judges your worth by boob size or evenness, he isn't worth knowing.
There's more to you than physical attributes and if he is THAT immature, at 21, not to realise that.....
The ONLY thing that matters about your boobs is that they give YOU pleasure when he stimulates them; as with all things, your pleasure should be his only concern.
Different sizes are the norm rather than the exception, and perfection is an illusion that you could spend a lifetime pointlessly chasing, and no sensible person expects or even wants it.
Celebrate your "you-ness", relax and be confident in yourself.
Harry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): My wife's breasts are one cup size different too. It took me years before I even noticed it. Believe me, he will be so happy to be seeing them that he won't likely notice. When he finally does it won't likely matter. By the way, it is normal for them to be different sizes. I never dated a woman with a perfect body and I never cared.
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reader, creamsauce +, writes (10 July 2009):
I have that same problem, my breasts are a cup size apart. Scientifically, at least.. there's nothing you can do that would 'naturally' increase your bust size. Especially if it's only on one side. A breast augmentation is probably the only way to increase the size of one breast, without effecting the other. And if it's more 'realistic' to get surgery than to get your boyfriend to accept it... then well, that might be a problem by itself. My guy hasn't even noticed, and he probably won't unless I point it out. Some guys are blind like that. Is your man is especially observant, then there's really no hiding. The most you can do maybe, is use a little makeup to sort of 'contour' them. Or maybe a certain angle makes it less obvious. Honestly, guys tend to not care about minor details like that anyway, as long as they get to see you naked and yeah. Oh yea, and things like birth control pills only increase breast size temporarily, because it's water weight.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (10 July 2009):
It is perfectly normal- for everyone. I dont think I know a girl with perfectly matched up breasts, myself included.(unless their fake) I'm 24, I'm sure they're staying this way. For some girls the difference isnt noticable except of course to them. They have shops that custom make bras to your unique size, add more padding to 1 side so they "even out", altho they are more expensive than bras you buy off the rack at any store. You should look into that if you want. As far as your boyfriend- if he loves you it won't matter so much. The first time I was intimate with a guy he had his own insecurities on his mind he didnt even notice- later on down the road he noticed, but he had 3 sisters and he said he heard them talk about it- in otherwords, he knew it was quite normal. There's nothing wrong with you- your boyfriend should accept that. :) Hope this helps at least some!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I'm sure that you're boyfriend would understand if you have a chat with him about it, I know it could be embarrassing to talk about but once you have the discussion you'll feel great. My boobs are tiny and so I was embarrassed to take my top off, I just said to my boyfriend that I felt ashamed and eventually I was able to do it. It takes time, and trust. The pill can increase boob size but its different for everyone, my friend is on the pill and her breasts have increased dramatically however, mine haven't! X
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