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anonymous
writes:me and my partner have been together for a year, we love each other lots and he has now moved in with me so hes closer to me, he treats me good and tells me he loves me all the time, we also have a baby on the way. i may be reading into this but the other night he took me to the cinema, as we were queing up, a stunning brunnete walked past in her bellytop, she was beautiful, and my boyfriend couldnt take his eyes off her for a few minutes, it made me feel worthless and ugly, because if he loved me, why is he staring at her? im a pretty blonde and slim, but now i feel if his eye is wandering, will he possibly cheat on me?his eye never use to wander.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): You were looking at her too. Does that mean you're going to cheat? People look at attractive people. It's nature. Even my old 50+ year old parents who are happily married for 25 years check out other people sometimes. Just because you love someone doesn't mean they suddenly become the only attractive person in the entire world... That's not how the world works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): His actions are not indicative that he will cheat. It suggests he was staring at a beautiful woman. You feel threatened by this because you are comparing yourself to her and in some respects feeling inferior etc. The way you feel about yourself is at the centre of this dilemma. However.... having said all that... I do still believe that there is looking (not a problem) and gawping (which is rude and disrespectful) and when men are with their girlfriends or wives it is important to be mindful of who they are with and what they mean to them. Nobody likes to feel uncomfortable.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 June 2010):
You will never stop a man looking at another woman. Just as there will be times where you will find yourself looking at a good looking man. The reason isn't that he doesn't love you and will cheat. The reason is that it is an in-built reflex that people have. You can't stop nature. You'll find that like every other person, at times you, your boyfriend, your friends will all look at other people for a moment and think they're attractive. In no way does that mean he will cheat. I think he was unfortunately insensitive about it, and given that you're pregnant it's more than likely that your senses will be heightened. I don't think you have anything to worry about.
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