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writes:I feel like hell. I've been dating this amazing guy for 4 months and its just amazing. But I don't think his sister likes me. Every time he asks me to go away with him and his youth group I decline because his sister is going to be there and she intimidates me as she looks at me and starts whispering to someone and looks back at me and smiles at me very sourly... I don't know what I,ve done wrong. I can't talk to My fella about it because it'd get awkward and I can't talk to her about it because she tell her brother and his family about it and I'll be made the bad guy. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 If she's never said anything to you about disliking you, how do you know she does?
You said it yourself SHE intimidates YOU. You are giving her a lot of power. Just ignore her. Better yet, be sweet as pie to her...
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 Well as she hasn't acutally said anything horrible to you then i would just calm down!
I know this might sound strange but some people just come across/look really bitchy, but infact they can acutally be nice people.
Spend abit more time just talking to her, once you do that you should be able to really tell if she has something against you which i doubt.
She may well look imtimdating but if you get scared of her then even if your trying to look cool it can really show through your body launguge so she could be thinking that your the one who doesn't like her.
Go to your boyfriends youth group next time he invites you, i mean what is the worst she can do?
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (1 November 2011):
 i think if you want to carry on being with him you will have to brazen it out with her. just put your most confident front on, be friendly to her, don't let her know you are intimidated. yes i know this means faking it as it sounds like you don't like her either. all you need to do is tolerate her for his sake, you do not need to have anything to do with her outside your time with him. i think she knows that you feel uncomfortable when she looks at you and whispers. if you can but on a brave face that makes you look NOT intimidated i am sure she will start to leave you alone and choose another easy target to go and pick on. make sure you get on ultra well with his parents, get them on side
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): Just ignore her, she is most likely just trying to test you and "looking out" for her brother. The more you let her intimidate you, the longer she will do it. I do want to give you a lot of credit that you have thought about how it could affect your boyfriend and his family if you make a big deal about it, because yes you would be disliked if the brother and sister started fighting over this. Simply ignore her, and keep being the caring and wonderful person you are and soon she will realise that you really do care for her brother. I am sorry that you feel uncomfortable around her and I hope it gets better soon.
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