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writes:What can I do about this problem with my boyfriend? My boyfriend's sister is 22. She doesn't drive and relies 99% on him to get her places, take her to work, out with her friends, here there and everywhere. The one night I stayed over she texted him at 9:30 in the morning for when he woke up, he had to take the boy she had stay over home. Needless to say, I woke up and was promptly sent home so he could tend to her needs. Then the other night we were at his house when she called and needed a ride home from work. It was 12:30 at night and he left me alone in his house to go pick her up. I locked myself in the bathroom until he got back because I was a bit scared. (I would have gone with him, but I get car sick if I have to sit in the back seat, and his sister refuses to sit in the back.) This sort of incident has happened a couple times in the past. There's also been the various, "we can't hang out today because I'm taking my sister to the mall/shopping/etc."I love my boyfriend, and we've been together for nine months. I don't want to this to cause us to end, but I'm at the point now where I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Have you considered that they may have issues far deeper than you realize.... You may need to get out of the relationship 100 percent.... I have six sons and one daughter.... She allows all of her brothers to live their life and never clings to them..... Thay are ages 30,25,21,19,18,13,qnd 12 being my daughter.... she call and talks to all of her brothers but never do any of my kids cling to one another even though they are all best friends.....
My daughter is the baby of the family and is adored by all of her brothers and their girls.... Your guy may be sleeping with his sister..... check into his relationship with his parents..... Something is not right...... Do not accuse him without far more insight into the matter.... You need to watch them and look for the signs.... research the matter and talk with a doctor online..... Their could be a sickness within that family which you will want to avoid.... Trust your gut feelings and face your fears.... Fear can sometimes protect us from harm.... Also pray on the matter and let insight/wisdom guide you..... I will sign up soon.... Don't panic... just step back and look closer at their relationship.... Try to get to know her better as well.... If they will allow it..... if not, you should really pull back and run... Angel... Talk to your parents as well and let them reflect upon the matter... They may pick up on such matters as well.... Let your mom talk to his sister and get to know her... Parents are quick to pick up on strange things for your protection.... Go to them and talk.... My family is made up of doctors and lawyers.... Nothing is a shock to us at this point... Nor will it be to your parents.... check into the matter without injury emotionally to your boyfriend or his sister... They may not be ill in such a way.... but when brothers and sisters cling to an extream level thier is cause for a mature investigation into the family history.... ok.... (Angel) Hard subject to discuss but many will understand what I am saying to you....
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Have you talked to him about helping his sister get a car? Perhaps it would be worth it to help get her on her feet, I know it should be her responsibility, but it would put less strain on your relationship if she had a car. Does she have a job? Obviously your boyfriend cares and is pretty close to his sister, if I were you I'd aim at helping his sister so you don't make it seem like you're making him choose between you and his family.
So if you mention "lets help her get a car, she seems to need one" would be less threatening then "your sister is needy and its getting on my nerves".
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (6 September 2010):
if youve never said anything i would dont keep it bottled up inside but be nice, also consider maybe his sister doesnt like you. the front seat shows a position of power to her thats why she efuses to sit in the back shes showing you that hes HER brother its possible that she is doing it purposely to piss you off
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