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writes:we've been 7 months with my boyfriend.. and it's the first time i can feel that one of his church mates was not just into me. I mean, doesn't like me for him. there's this one time when i checked on my boyfriend's friendster account and read one of his friend's comment..and i'm so embarrassed because it says like his friend was accusing me that i was the reason of his complacency and his not growing in ministry plus carries away his deep relationship with God. he even says maybe i'm not the one for him.. and i just couldn't understand why because i didn't do anything to keep him away from his intimate relationship with God. and in fact, that guy don't know me yet.when i opened this to my boyfriend, he said that it's just his friend's opinion and we know the truth. he said, i'm not the reason of his every problem and i have nothing to worry because if we have God in our hearts, we'll never be away from him.and he's not gonna listen to what the guy have said because that guy don't know the real me.i'm happy from what he said but i just couldn't stand on what his friend have said about me. i tried not to be embarrassed but every time it would pop again in my head, i couldn't help but to cry.. and i wanted to say something to his friend but don't know what.how can i get over it and what can i say? Reply to this Question
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reader, neverbeenkissed +, writes (11 May 2009):
neverbeenkissed is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm feeling ok now..thanks for the advices..especiallyto twistedbaby? Ü best answer for me:))
keep safe and Godbless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): Your boyfriend has reassured you and it is his opinion that matters surely, not his friend's? Try not to worry what his friend says - stay pleasant to him and maybe he will realise in the long run that you are ok really. But don't be too eager to please. The friend could have some issue of jealousy making him act like this.
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reader, Twistedbaby420  +, writes (2 May 2009):
 Its tough when you're with someone and others who are close to them don't always 'approve' of you for various reasons.
Thankfully, it seems as though your boyfriend doesn't really take what his friend said too seriously. Unfortunately, you're always going to remember what was said and anytime that friend is mentioned, or you see him, you'll be reminded of it.
Ask your boyfriend what he would think of you contacting his friend about what was said before do it. If he is okay with it, maybe let him be there when you write it. You could message him privately over friendster (if that is possible, I don't have one so I don't know specifically how it works) and tell him that it was brought to your attention that he doesn't exactly approve of your relationship. Tell him that it hurt you to hear that, because you truly love your boyfriend and have nothing but the best intentions for him. Add that while it upset you, you also are glad to know that he has a friend that will look out for him (even though at the moment this may not be exactly what you're feeling) and with that said, hopefully he can get to know you better and see for himself that you are in fact good for your boyfriend.
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