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writes: my boyfriend has a problem with watchin other women and we both think that he needs help,so what can we do to get rid of his obsession of watching other women? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): I think that this man needs to seek help. It is not normal for a man to always stare and peep at other women, especially if he is with someone he say he loves. That is so disrespectful. How would he like it if you acted like a sick pervert?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (1 May 2006):
 I would like to know how he does this and exactly what you mean by watches other women. Do you mean when you are out as a couple or do you mean porn or on the TV?
Please reply and fill us in further.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (1 May 2006):
 poor you! Basically I think this is a problem of respect for yourself by this man. I am quite sure most men have a wandering eye for other ladies but they dont make it obvious in front of their partners as they dont wish to start an argument, don't want to hurt their feelings etc. I would be very offended if my husband letched over another girl when we were out together, and he knows that so doesn't get caught. You have to address this head-on with him by telling him you are outraged by his behaviour each and every time you catch him looking. If he doesn't respond to your indignation then seek professional help; He may need to get some counselling to address his relationships with women and why he feels the need to do this. You both may need relationship counselling around these issues to discuss how it affects you both with a therapist.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (1 May 2006):
 Tell himwhy he does it ? does he fancy any of thses women because I agree with you its not mormal behaviour as it is classed as stalking which is a criminal offence tell himto stop it now before its too late.
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reader, jimmy2 +, writes (1 May 2006):
 Hi,When you say he watches other women, what level is this at? Does he simply just look at them in the street or is it more obsessive than that? A casual glance at a pretty woman in the street or on TV is something that most blokes do, the rule is usually 'Look but don't touch' and if this is the case, there really is nothing to worry about, as long as he can accept the fact that you may also reserve the odd glance for an attractive guy. However, if it goes beyond this, then you both need to sit and talk to each other and perhaps find ways in which you want to improve the relationship. I found it enormously helpful when me and my girlfriend each wrote a wishlist about what more we wanted from each other, both with the relationship in general and on a more intimate level. We then exchanged notes and found common ground. I hope that something like this may help you.
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