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writes: wanted to share my experience I'm going through right now.....Well I was with my bf for bout 3 years and onetime brought a friend around him he told me she looked familar and probably a while back tried to get with her so I left it alone.....me and him always had big arguements and he would leave for a month or so and we would get back together...but my friend I didn't really trust her cuz she does the same we would argue and I wouldn't hear from her months @ a time and she would pop up out the blue like she's tryna see how my life is going cuz hers is a mess...my bf while we were broke up sent her a friend request on myspace and she excepted....then he said to her in her inbox...my bad I didn't kno dat was you and she told me about it so of course I confronted him about it.....his reply was I don't want her he talked real bad about her and was like I didn't realize it was her until he looked @ her pics.......I left it alone....she started wanting to like be around me and him finding reasons and excuses to come around....one time this chick drove all the way from her home to borrow a used belly ring of mines I thought it was supicious....I left it alone....me and my boyfriend got into another arguement he left in december.....this time on facebook sent my friend a message....askin her why weren't we speaking anymore...and not to tell me......anyway I knew nothing about it until March......when me and this chick still weren't speakin she called me crying and made her way to my house....she was crying about something that went on with her.....I felt bad for her gave her a huge and told her if she needed somewhere to stay for a couple of nights she could stay here.....she then said well I gotta tell you something she showed me the messages that were sent between my boyfriend and her back in december it was nothing sexual but I was pissed....me and him were broke up at the time....so I said screw dis I need to get to the bottom of this....I wanted to know if he was tryna get with my friend...so we went to a computer and started sendinding him messages in his in box from her account.....it appeared to me he was tryna figure out if he was being setup by the two of us or not.....he went out his way...told her to send a friend request....give her her number...and got a friend of ours to call my home to see what I was doing.....I knew what was going on so I played it cool I said I'm doing homework......to throw him off....this was @ 5:00pm...by 11:oopm...he called her phone and it sounded like he felled for it....I listened to the conversation and got her to ask why did he inbox her in her in box was it to get wit her or did he really wanna kno why we weren't speaking he told her both.....and then said me and him were broke up for bout 2 months and he jus hope he is not being setup....she ended the call...and he sent her a text talkin bout he could get the pic out his head wit her in the tub....that wasn't a fb pic it was a myspace pic.....she forwarded it to me and I went off...I called him and told him we were through.....and I found out I'm pregnant....I don't want anything to do wit him....but he wants me to keep the baby and told me he wanted to make up for his mistake.....and I hate him and don't know what to do.....someone help....he is telling me he knew we were setting him up....and keep apologizing......he is a liar and I will feel stupid to have this baby and stay wit him
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 It is a hard decision, but I think you are making the right one for you. You are doing what you have to do and this man was no good for you.
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reader, theory12 +, writes (16 April 2010):
theory12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanx for the response....I already knew what needed to be done I juust see that I won't be happy.....and I'm going to get an abortion.....I will feel bad about that to...but I can't give up my child to noone if I were to have it.....he dosent really love me...he has my name tatted on his arm and that is the most fakest thing I ever seen....so becareful some men will go that far to make you believe they love you...he would have done anything for me....but doesn't respect me or took my feelings into consideration.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 Trust me a baby wont make your relationship better it will make it harder. You don't want to live your life unhappy and worrying about what he's up to all the time. This is your body and your baby and at the end of the day it's your decision. Have you considered adoption? There are lots of people out there who are desperate to have a baby and are not able to.
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reader, sweetspicy +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Do you love him enough to have a baby with him? A baby is ALOT of work and responibilty. If he is not being responsible and faithful to you now what makes you think he is going to change after the baby. Think about it your going to be stuck home feeding, changing, cleaning up after it, and taking the baby to all sorts of appointments while he is out doing the same thing that he is doing now. Your girl friend doesn't sound like much of a friend to me she sounds like a back stabber why would she go near him while you were dating him or on and off with him. That doesnt sound like a good envionment to have your child in. He will make up some excuse to get out of the house, you will tell him to bring the baby and he will, but what he won't tell you is that he was out with another girl infront of your kid. These are just some things you might want to think about.
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