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writes:Hello all. Well, I really like this girl in my college and after maybe a year or so I finally manned up and decided to let her know how I feel about her. Me and this girl, we were very close freinds, always laughing and joking around, we would chat for hours on end on Facebook etc and I presumed she liked being in my company because I love being around her. So, I tell her how I feel and she tells me that she just wants to be freinds. So, I just say "Ok then, can we still remain good freinds though?" and she replied "Yeah sure." So the next day in college, me and her never even spoke to each other all day, completely blanked one another but I did catch her looking at me a few times. So, I talk to her on Facebook that same night and ask her what's up and why she didn't talk to me and she said she just felt weird and stuff so I just asked her "Can we please be freinds? I really like you as a mate and your an awesome person to be around. I don't want to lose you over something stupid." So, the day after that, we just got on again, got chatting. Obviously, not as good as what we did do before. Now it's been about 2 months since I told her and we are back at square one. We get on fantastically, which is weird because if somebody liked you and you didn't like them back you would feel a little uncomfortable around them but she does not. It's like we are best freinds again. She always leaves me a lot of kisses at the end of every message too.So, I was just wondering. Do you think she said that she just wants to be freinds for that time being because she didn't know how she felt about me or do you think she genuinely means it? I'm really confused actually. If you knew a guy/girl liked you and they told you they liked you, you would'nt send out those exact same signals that confused them in the first place, a second time.Lately, I've been putting "Love You" at the end of each message and about 5 kisses too and she put's it back with more kisses. Now what girl, unless they were and uncontrollable flirt (which she isn't because it isn't in her character) would do that to a guy, that she knows likes her, if she does not like them?I'm very confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): Returning kisses is not necessarily a sign of reciprocated feelings - and infact flirting isn't either. Many people flirt just to strengthen social bonds and become better friends. In this case, I personally believe this girl is happy that you are back to being good friends, and as you were the one who started putting kisses up and saying "love you", I think she is also putting kisses down to make the situation less awkward and to put you onto balanced ground. I have a friend who likes me in that way, and he also puts kisses down and so do I. I feel it makes him less disapppinted that I said no to him, and I feel bad that I said no so I make it up to him by being super friendly :/ Tell me if I'm wrong but I think that is he right thing to do. There is a chance that she likes you though, but maybe she is not ready for a relationship? Soooo many people think that the person they love said no because they don't feel the same way - but lots of the time they do! They just aren't ready for it. Like me... :/You have to understand that whether she likes you or not, she does not want a relationship. She has said she just wants to be friends. Leave it at that - you can ask again if you want, you are still good friends from what you've told me and I'm sure she would be understanding.Hope this has helped you. Kazz
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): She likes you as a friend, you've regained a place as her friend.
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