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*airimegummi
writes:Okay... My boyfriend just popped this thing on me. He wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with. We will use protection and we will both know that we are more important than the side people. The only thing is, I really don't know what to say to it. Should I say yes or no. I need advice!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): that is cool as long it is a side thang.put me down. mike
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Sweetie... it's a question for you, not me. If you think it's alright for both of you to have another person on the side, then do it, but you'll end up breaking up soon and with the fight of jealousy. I personally think it's weird...
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reader, love-him  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Hia babii, its good you are considering saying no!! honestly think of it how 'oh my god, girlfriend say no' put it.. about how he will have his hands on another bird and pleasuring her.. etc.. honestly you need to think about it.. the jealousy? this isnt the right relationship you wna get involved in.. think hard about it babii, hope you make the right decision.. mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Open relationships (polyamory) are not for everyone. It is not as hard as some people think (just as monogamy is not for everyone), but it does have certain challenges.
I would suggest that before either of you sleep with anyone else, that you both do some research on polyamory, or swinger culture. Books on the subject are The Ethical Slut, and The Lifestyle by Terry Gould.
Lots of websites give info on the structures of polyamorous relationships, so a google search may help you with this.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): oh my god girlfriend say NO! Having sex with someone, if it's with a partner and not as a one off, is something so special and loving. Sex is an act of love and if you're boyfriend wants to share this with someone else then I think his head is in the completely wrong place. If you actually think of what it would be like before you let it go ahead...I mean YOU'RE lover will have his hands all over another girls naked body, pleasuring her and her pleasuring him. Can u really take another girl making ur boyfriend moan? I know i couldn't!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 I would honestly say get rid of him lovely.
If he cared about you so much then he wouldn't need anyone else. And I have no doubt in my mind that this would cause much jealousy and heartbreak in the relationship, as yummymummy said.. it's down to you but I think if you don't end it you'll get hurt.
Look after yourself hunnie, do what's best for you, not him.
xx
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Go with your heart. If you have reservations about doing this, I wouldn't do it. There could be serious consequences to your intimacy after you've crossed this line. You may end up feeling quite jealous. I would question why one woman isn't enough for him. It could be that he wants to have an affair, and this is a way he can do it with your consent. Consider things very carefully. Your relationship will never be the same afterwards.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Whats that all about the way i see it when you are with someone you are with them and only them, you should so not be cool withthis idea and if you are not thenn you need to tell him and if he wants to be with someone else at the same time then walk away and let him find someone that will be happy with that arrangement.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (20 June 2007):
 It's down to you at the end of the day hunni. I would be dropping my partner if he suggested sleeping with someone else. I see that as having the best of both worlds- a relationship and a bit on the side and it's a little bit greedy in my eyes. If you think you would be ok with him sleeping with someone else then say yes, but if not tell him no you aren't ok with it.
Good Luck!
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