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female
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41-50,
*ibhlin2
writes:I have dated my boyfriend for over 2 years. He is 35 and I am 28. I love him deeply. He wants me to give up all contact with any man from my past. I am not in regular contact at all just friends on facebook or myspace, I'm not hiding anything he is free to see my communications, but he still doesn't like it. I think he's displaying his control rather than showing he trusts me. I feel that some ex's like the high school bf from 10 years ago is an acquaintance and I like hearing from time to time how there life is, married, kids new job etc... I love my boyfriend and would do almost anything, but my heart is truly with him, I want him to trust me. I think he's asking too much, because at times I have ceased all contact and he still finds something to be mad about.... i.e. he searched my exes myspace and saw he had a pic of me, he got really mad at me, i didnt even know it was there and I wasn't even linked as friends with him through myspace.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 November 2008):
He'll start with making you get rid of all traces of your former love life.Then he'll make you cut contact with any of your friends that want you to go out and have fun "because they will encourage you to cheat."Then it will be all your friends, then it will be your family.Tell this guy that he can either put up with the fact that there was life before HIM or he can get out.No man should have this level of control over you. They can ask nicely and say they don't like it, but if they are getting angry and yelling at you for things you can't even control then it is a bad sign.Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Kuroneko  +, writes (4 November 2008):
I'm sorry, but I'm afraid that this is usually a sign of the other being too controlling. If he can't trust you like this and is making you cut out all communications with any man, his controlling tendencies will only get worse. Have you been able to talk to him about this? If not or if you do and he does not change, you could look at this relationship again and see if it is a healthy one or not. Don't put yourself in a position where you will be constantly under his paranoias.
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