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*hoe_lover
writes:I am 16 and lost my virginty along time ago in the not the best circumstance , my boyf is 19 and is stil a virgin, it took him courage to tell me this and i respect it , now he says hes ready to loose it , but ive never been in this situtation before , i dont want to be known as the bad first , and im just not confident taking the lead , if im nervous he will be , some one please talk some sense to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Complicated*One +, writes (28 August 2007):
Dont think too much bout this, its called lovemaking for a reason hunni, and if its between u and ur fella who trusts u enough to lose it with u shud trust him enough to respect you. no he doesnt no what hes doin but jsut because u have lose ur vaginity does not mean it will be like last time, everyone is different.personally i dont think you are ready for this..but if you are go for it! just make sure you know what YOU really want! xxx
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reader, Geminibabe2013  +, writes (28 August 2007):
dont be nervouse about being the bad first.like other people said he has nothing to compare you to so u will be fine. hope everything works out for you -geminibabe
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): i think your boyfrind thinks that beacause you have done it before you wont be nervous,i can uderstand were you are comming from about not wanting to take the lead you are are both ment to join in. i think you should tell him if you are nervouse so then he dusnt think that you know everythin about sex
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reader, penta +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Sweetheart, just because you lost your virginity doesn't mean you're experienced. NO ONE is born knowing what to do exactly. We all experiment with what we like until we figure it out. Take your time with him; don't be in such a hurry to get to the finish line. It's the journey that's fun.
I'm assuming you and he can talk about this (if you can't, then work on that first). Tell him what you're feeling, and be ready to laugh at yourselves. The best relationships are the ones where you can talk and let each other know what feels good, while laughing. There should be some play. Don't take yourselves too seriously. Take time and enjoy.
(And while you're at it -- be safe. Birth control, condoms, etc.)
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): well it all depends how long you have been together and you have to ask yourself the question, do you love him? usually when its someone's first time all they think about is making it pleasurable for their partner so i would recomend getting comfortable and ease yourself into having sex and go slow if you are more expirianced than him you have nothing to worry about he will be the one who is nervous!
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