A
female
age
41-50,
*ms
writes:Why does my boyfriend look at other women but he goes crazy if another man looks at me. He's even followed guys home to confront them. I asked him what's the difference in him looking at another girls and another guys looking at me?I dress very appropriately, I don't wear anything short or low-cut because then he'd blame it on me if a guy looked at me.I can't make myself invisible and I can't deal with him chasing these guys and yelling at them. He's gonna get hurt. What's with the male double standard? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, ems +, writes (28 August 2007):
ems is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks gals. That is how I feel too. Guess I need to know I'm not alone in thinking that.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Hi Sweetheart,
I couldnt have put that better than penta, Every word hunny, I would def be thinking there is something wrong and to be honest wouldnt really want to be with someone that chases other men down the road that is a tad weird for me because Ive been there...I would talk with him as penta said and if your really not happy and this continues then if it were me Id be the one running...TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
...............................
A
female
reader, penta +, writes (28 August 2007):
 I usually advise women on this site that men look, and that it doesn't mean anything about your relationship with him. But I'm going to have to give you different advice.
I may be wrong, but my GUESS is that when he looks at the other women he has thoughts that are more than just casual. And when he sees other men looking at you (as they will) he assumes they have these same thoughts, and he feels threatened.
Firstly, he needs to understand that it takes two to cheat, and you are trustworthy. It doesn't matter what these guys are thinking, even if they come onto you, it's never going to happen, because he can trust YOU. And if he can't get the fact that he needs to TRUST you (and ignore these men) through his skull then there's a problem.
And second, he's the only guy I've heard of on this site that I might be worried about him looking at other women. If he's thinking that other guys might go after you just for looking, what's he thinking about those other women? For me, that would be a problem.
I would talk to him about both sides of this issue, and if he doesn't stop it (going after these strangers), this should be a deal breaker for you.
...............................
|
