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writes:well I've been dating this guy and we've been talking about the sexual things we wanna do, avoiding the actual sex. he wants to finger me but I'm overweight and uncomfortable with my body.and my guy is "normal," like skinny and attractive.he also wants to see my breasts but I'm uncomfortable because I don't wanna gross him out.I don't want him to see/feel my vagina and get turned off because there's a lot of fat down there and what not and its embarrassing.as for my breasts they're not the perkiest and my nips are stretched out and the word stretched reminded me of the very faint stretch marks on them.I just wanna be attractive to him without all the clothes on that 'hold everything in place,' how can I let him do as he pleases without grossing him out?
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reader, monkeytoast  +, writes (30 December 2010):
well im in your postition, i have stretch marks and i am really consious about my body,everytime i get a bf thinner than me i feel like godzilla but the truth is, is that he likes you just the way you are :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): i hope this helps, but if he really loves you then he wont mind wat u look like on the outside, just relax, i use to be like that as well, but i learnt to relax with him..
if he loves you he wil love your body,trust me
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reader, Disturbed Princess  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 LATE REPLY :D
I feel the Same with my body, although im young im still not thin like my boyfriend and my boobs arnt like other people my age. but i just let my boyfriend do as he wanted, if he loves you he will love you no matter what you look like. even though you may discribe yourself like that what about whats on the inside? im sure your very nice and you dont find alot of guys that look for personality, some of us find one and we dont relise till their gone. Dont be ashamed if he loves you he wont care!
hope all goes well
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): he wouldnt go out with you if he didnt htink you wer attractive i was thinking the same coz im overweight and i think im ugly but my boyfriend really attractive and does 10 hours of swimmin a week so he has a gud bod:) tell him what your feeling and talk with him and also a lot of teenagers get stretch marks ive got them on my hips n chest coz i had a underactivve thyroud so i put alot of weight on quickly thts wat causes stretch marks i think :S try bio oil thts really good for strech mark n he wont be grossed out
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reader, Little Miss Cheeky +, writes (21 July 2008):
I had the same problem, to start off with- leave the lights off!! tell him you're a bit shy- if he's a good guy, he will respect that and let you have the lights off or the covers over your body.
Just relax, he will love your body no matter what.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Sweetie, your boyfriend thinks you look fine the way you are. Trust me, he wouldn't be dating you if he wasn't attracted to you. This is his way of wanting to get closer to you.
However, if you're uncomfortable with the idea, it may be best if you told him and waited for when you feel completely comfortable with the idea. If he really likes you, he'll understand and wait.
You're too young to be worrying about sex at this age anyway, just enjoy how you feel about each other and the hugs, kisses and cuddling.
Take Care
XO
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reader, TheVirg +, writes (21 July 2008):
Personally I think you should abstain from any sexual contact to begin with, once fingering or having oral sex a guy would have a hard time restraining from going the whole way... but certainly there is no reason to be uncomfortable. If the guy wants to finger you, he has obviously fantasized you nude before and should not mind a little extra cushion. I wouldn't worry about grossing him out, little stretch marks arent unnatractive, not at all. If he likes you for who you are, it should not matter.
By the way, fingering is supposed to be more for the female, not the male, so let him be the one to please you.
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reader, sarah w +, writes (21 July 2008):
 he wont be "grossed out"the fact that he has urges to get closer to you in that way says he fancies you like crazy.you seem too young to worry about these issues and maybe you should wait just a little longer until you feel 100% comfortable within yourself.
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