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writes:I recently started hanging out with a guy who is bi-sexual and open about it. I have always wondered myself whether or not i was gay/bi/whatever because i enjoy gay porn, however, i've never even gone as far as to hint to anyone the way i sometimes feel. I've had several girlfriends with an active sex life, however i don't know how to handle being around someone who is openly bi. He currently has a boyfriend, but i'm extremely attracted to him, and i've told him i have feelings for some guys. He's the only guy that i've ever felt i could date or have sex with since i'm really only attracted to straight acting guys, but he's got a boyfriend (however he still flirts and walks around with his shirt off while i'm around knowing very well i like him). What do i do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 July 2008):
Well he's obviously a flirt and enjoys the fact he could "turn you to the dark side." This is a great self-esteem booster for him but not great for you.
He is in a relationship and as such you can't make a move on him. I think you need to stop torturing yourself and stay away from him for a while. Or at least keep out of situations where he has his shirt off.
If he splits up with his boyfriend then go for it, but in the mean time see him as someone unavailable that you happen to have a crush on and get on with your life.
There is all the time in the world to explore your sexuality. Keep having fun in life and the situation will come up where you meet a guy and get a chance to try out all the things you like.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TheVirg +, writes (21 July 2008):
Well first of all, as in any relationship, I believe personality is the most important thing, over any sexual attraction. I think you should really evaluate yourself and find out if you really like the guy for looks or his body or if you just like him as a person. If you like him for the person that he is, then you have to wait for him to be out of his relationship before you make any move on him or anything, just as in any crush or love, unless you, him, and his boyfriend believe in polygamy or multiple relationships. If he was a girl and you really liked her, it would be courteous to wait untill she broke up with her boyfriend to make any moves(if any of this makes any sense).
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