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writes:So my boyfriend has told me lately that with regards to sex we do the same thing and he wants me to mix it up and make it more exciting. He has expressed concern that I don't seem to take any initiative, which is something I have to change. My problem is I grew up very sheltered and I am still quite oblivious to sex. I don't know things that guys like, and I am also extremely shy. How do I go about trying new things and overcome my shyness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2010): Try diffrent positions. I recommend the doggy-style or you on top. It takes two to tango. Have him flip you over a few times gently. That should do it!
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reader, veronika  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 First of all, you two need to talk about it. A sex life in a relationship takes two to make it work, so if you want to find out "what guys like" - or at least what your guy likes - then you need to talk to him about it. That's the first step.
It's also not just your responsibility to spice things up. Like I said, there are two of you in the relationship, so it takes two to make it work. Find out what you both like and what turns you on. Talk about sexual fantasies and desires and kinks.
You need to feel comfortable around him to lose inhibition during sex, and you need to trust him.
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reader, adamantine +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Ask him to show you.. If he is more experienced than you, he can be your teacher. Tell him you're shy, and you don't really know what to do, and ask him what he would like. In turn, if he is a good lover, he will test things out with you and tune in to your reactions.
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