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writes:My ex boyfriend stole from me some money and did not pay back ..He only apologized ...so since I had had enough of him taking me for granted ; I ended the relationship and told him that I will not continue with this relationship if he doesn’t pay me back ..He has the tendency to use my genuine attitude to help out ..He is not doing well financially...He understood and communication stoped ...So a few days back he got into an altercation and was beaten and his arm got broken ...Hid family started calling me how he is in a critical condition and I should help ..I.I bluntly refused ...Is that the best way to make people ( him and his family ) taking me for granted ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2022): You should be getting rid of him because he is a loser.
Why would any self respecting, hard working, responsible, smart woman be with a loser? When that loser steals from you it is because he does not respect you and only cares about himself. When his family come to you expecting you to help they are as bad as him. If they are so worried about him let them pay his bills and help him out with money! I am sure that between them they have more money to spare than you. But they think you have already been too soft and soppy with him so they can get you to give him more so they don't have to give him a cent.
This bum should be sorting out his finances and getting himself a good job and paying his way before he even thinks of dating someone who pays her own way in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2022): Thank you everyone for your much needed advice ...I have kept quite and decided not to hep and I am finally not feeling guilty about it ...
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (18 January 2022):
 You broke up for good reason. VERY good reason. Don't let his family guilt-trip you into looking after someone who used you in the past.
Time to turn the page and move on with your life. Your ex is in your past. Leave him there. Don't look back. EVER. He is no longer your problem.
Stay strong and find someone who appreciates you and treats you like you deserve to be treated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2022): Typo correction:
"Otherwise, let [his] family pay the doctor bills!"
"Get as far away from all [of] them as you can!"
P.S.
If this guy is also in his 30's pushing 40, getting into fights, and stealing from a woman; he has got to be a total loser! His financial woes are not yours to be concerned about. You're not his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2022): He's a thief! He took from you without asking. He got beat-up; probably because he runs in bad company. His arm is broken? Why must you help? You didn't break it...did you?
Let him sue the guy that broke his arm! Assuming it was a man! Otherwise, let him family pay the doctor bills!
If he's capable of theft, he's capable of just about anything. He got in a fight? Maybe because he must have owed somebody else, or stole from them too!!!
You might have to write the money off, or he'll use the money he owes you as a reason to keep you in his life. If you don't know why he got beat-up; it's best you have nothing else to to with him. Just to make sure whomever it was, doesn't come after YOU!
You're not his wife, or his sugar mama. You don't owe his family anything, and your relationship otherwise is none of their business. They'll use you just like he did; because they know you have a job and can support yourself.
Get as far away from all them as you can! I'd just forget about the money, or you can file charges with the police. If you don't want to do that, then leave them all alone. Block all contact. Forgive and forget about him!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 January 2022):
 Just tell them you wish him a speedy recovery and that you are no longer dating him. I think you did the right thing here.
If they keep contacting you, then you BLOCK their numbers.
You don't need to rush to his side because he got into an altercation.
He stole from you, he has no intentions of paying you back. So he is now an EX-BF. Him not doing so well financially doesn't give him the right to steal from you. Ever.
His family can take care of him.
Just remember, if HE tries and worm his way back at some point that you DO NOT take him back.
If someone is willing to steal from you and thinks saying "sorry" is enough, they will do it again and again.
I think you know you deserve better from a partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2022): Wish him well and block his number and his family. Make your social media private and block, remove and delete any of his family (and himself ) from it. You broke up with him. He stole from you. You owe him nothing. He is an ex for a good reason. My guess is he is the one who got his "flying monkeys" aka family to contact you in hopes that you feel sorry for him and takes him back.
Him getting hurt has nothing to do with you.
Time to fully cut him off and for you to heal and move on.
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